{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"EPISODE 404: Overrated Confidence","description":"Because confidence is not only overrated, it\u2019s misunderstood. This topic was inspired by a Facebook Live I did earlier today on my Dr. Shannon Page, while I was wearing my \u201cinfamous\u201d pants. I did an episode about the blue version of these pants a while ago. (EPISODE 064: My Exotic Pants And Red Shoes Got Noticed) One of the big things that gets in the way of confidence is COMPARISON. The truth is, comparison never works! We can never win in the game of comparison. Being BETTER than someone else isn\u2019t confidence. So what does \u201cOverrated Confidence\u201d mean? How can we learn from it? One of the BIG KEYS to confidence is LOVING yourself well\u2026what you are, who you are, what you\u2019re all about. But let\u2019s go even deeper\u2026 So many people are seeking confidence. Why? Seriously, I believe it\u2019s overrated. Why? Because it\u2019s misunderstood. Being confident for the sake of confidence isn\u2019t really confidence. We may think it is, but it\u2019s not. It\u2019s time to REDEFINE CONFIDENCE. The opposite of confidence is insecurity. What\u2019s insecurity? The bigger concern is what\u2019s causing the insecurity. Identify what\u2019s causing your insecurity. This will help you redefine what true confidence means to you. Insecurity is selfish. For you to be insecure you have to be thinking about what everyone else is thinking about you. Insecurity is very self-centered. When we get our minds centered too much on ourselves, we can get insecure very quickly. This is also where fear comes from. Fear comes from being focused too much on ourselves. If the truth about YOU is that you\u2019re NOT selfish, then you ARE confident. Deep down. This IS the truth about you. Confidence redefined is TRUTH. Insecurity is popular\u2026and it\u2019s very common. Insecure people strive to be popular. Pretending like you\u2019re confident to prove to someone else that you\u2019re confident (or popular) is again, OVERRATED. It\u2019s a huge, deceptive game! True confidence isn\u2019t even about confidence. It\u2019s about TRUTH. The truth about you. You being your most authentic self and loving yourself well. Confidence is standing in that truth and love. Being the TRUE, CONFIDENT YOU. Not TRYING to be, but BEING. Confidence is knowledge of, belief in, living in the truth. This is TRUE CONFIDENCE. If you\u2019d like to truly express your confident self... You must let go of insecurity. You must let go of trying to strive to be popular. You must let go of the selfishness. THAT IS CONFIDENT. THAT IS CONFIDENCE. Standing in the truth about who you are, what and why you are. Knowledge of the truth will set you free. Confidence is freedom. Because confidence is truth. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY\u2019S SACRED S.O.L. STEP: Write down when you feel the most confident. \u201cI feel most confident when _______________.\u201d Take a look at it, and why it allows you to feel so confident. Focus on it. Then ask yourself, \u201cWhat\u2019s TRUE about this for me?\u201d FOCUS ON THE TRUTH ABOUT YOU.   Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you. Are you ready to share YOU and YOUR S.O.L. STORY? I\u2019d LOVE to connect with you, and celebrate YOU and your S.O.L. Come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/WSOLMovement\/ Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you. By the way, if you haven't already listened\/downloaded my new song (EPISODE 291), you can also listen to it here: letsnottalkaboutex.com, and cast your vote for your favorite version.  Thank you for being here, and allowing me to Sip On Life with you. Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets\u2026and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING. I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY. xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life\u2019s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME. A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast\u2026 Intro\/Outro done by UNI V. SOL  Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)  Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com) Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)  ","author_name":"SHE SPEAKS SHE HEALS Podcast with Doctor Shannon","author_url":"http:\/\/www.doctorshannon.com\/blog","html":"