{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"EPISODE 1192: How To Forgive When You Don\u2019t Feel Like It","description":""Unforgiveness" is an epidemic in the world, and the one it hurts most is the ONE who has it in her\/his heart. Today I\u2019ll show you how to release yourself\u2026 Remember that dis-ease feels comfortable in dis-ease. Here are seven powerful, proven, effective steps for restoring EASE back into your heart, soul, and life. (They've worked for me in my life...every single time I've needed to forgive. These steps have also gotten me through three divorces!) 1. Pray. Ask for the help you need and desire. Even if it\u2019s simply praying to want to forgive. Start where you are. 2. Take responsibility for anything you\u2019ve ever done, and realize that people, including yourself, make mistakes. This will help you feel compassion and empathy so you can do this\u2026 3. Stop taking it personally, and making it a story that\u2019s AGAINST you. Remember, that it\u2019s usually not personal. Even when it affects us personally. 4. Own your part of the story, and then FORGAVE YOURSELF. 5. Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself. Say whatever you need to say\u2026list out all the things that you\u2019ve done, and feel you need forgiveness for. Then symbolically and ceremonially let it go, and release yourself. 6. Write a letter saying everything (nasty and otherwise) that you'd like to say to the person who wronged me. End it with a bunch of \u201c!!!!!!!!!!\u201d\u2026then get rid of the paper. 7. Remember that forgiveness is a process that has layers, and can have many layers \u2014 like an onion. Let the tears flow. Let it go. Don\u2019t worry about \u201cforgetting\u201d\u2026this process will help you go beyond that. It will help RENEW your mind. With your RENEWED MIND, you can experience a transformed life. Both life and forgiveness are a process of transformation. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)   TODAY\u2019S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:  Write down where you\u2019re holding \u201cunforgiveness\u201d toward someone or something in your life. Circle the one, or ones, you\u2019re ready to forgive. Grab a piece of paper and begin to write a letter of forgiveness. Say what you need to say, and feel what you need to feel\u2026until you feel it\u2019s finished. Then put a big X through it, and say, \u201cI forgive and release you now.\u201d Maybe the first person on that list is YOU. Do yourself a HUGE favor, please begin this process today. Thank you for being here, and allowing me to Sip On Life with you. Request a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well \u2014 The Best-Selling 12 Engagements Of Becoming The Great Lover Of Your Life (all you'll pay for is shipping.) www.dateyourselfwell.com  I\u2019m going to be inviting listeners onto the program. If you have a story you'd like to share \u2014 a song to sing (but not a Poor Me Story) \u2014 send me an email at: drshannon@doctorshannon.com and put SHARE MY STORY in the subject line. If you've received value from the podcast, please let me know. I'd LOVE to hear from you \u2014 please email me at: drshannon@doctorshannon.com AND PLEASE TELL YOUR BESTIES AND INVITE THEM TO SIP ON LIFE WITH US. FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM @doctorshannon! See you there... And learn about an incredible opportunity for a select sacred group of 25 women who are ready and willing to RISE UP AND BE THE WOMAN. If you\u2019ve been feeling like you\u2019re stuck, overwhelmed, or perhaps you still feel like you\u2019re drowning, please don\u2019t hesitate to reach out. I\u2019d be more than happy to schedule a Discovery Call with you to see if Healing Life Coaching is a good fit for you. Email me at drshannon@doctorshannon.com Come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/WSOLMovement\/ By the way, if you haven't already listened\/downloaded my new song (EPISODE 291), you can also listen to it here: letsnottalkaboutex.com, and cast your vote for your favorite version.  Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets\u2026and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING. I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY. xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life\u2019s work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME. A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast\u2026 Intro\/Outro done by UNI V. SOL  Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)  Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com) Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)  ","author_name":"SHE SPEAKS SHE HEALS Podcast with Doctor Shannon","author_url":"http:\/\/www.doctorshannon.com\/blog","html":"