{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"I\u2019m done keeping men\u2019s secrets - Sarah","description":"Sarah is a 35-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, married, monogamous, and pansexual. She clarified however that while she has experienced attractions to people of all genders, her sexual experiences have been limited to cis-gender males. Through her teens and early 20s, Sarah dated MUCH older men. She reflects back on those experiences, sorting through the ramifications of her partner choices, including the pressures she felt and how the power differentials in those relationships worked. She is now married to a man her own age and in the second half of the show we talk extensively about the physical difficulties she has with sex and how she and her husband work around them. Major themes in this episode include the stigma, power dynamics, and secrets involved in dating much older men; physical challenges with sex and difficulty with orgasm; and expanding the definition of what counts as sex. Sarah\u2019s first memory of sexual pleasure around age 8 Sarah\u2019s first relationship with a moderately older partner Not knowing how to behave when receiving pleasure Sarah\u2019s first relationship with a significantly order partner Sarah considers power dynamics and coercion in relationship with an older man When a partner removes a condom without permission it is sexual assault Sarah\u2019s first orgasm at age 25\u2014through more communication, focus on her pleasure, comfort level Navigating sexual interaction when orgasm isn\u2019t going to happen The physical challenges Sarah contends with including carpal tunnel, autoimmune disorders, and vaginal dryness Experimenting with lubricants and dilators An important PSA about lubrication! The audio extras for this episode are: Sarah talks more about her relationships with older men The extended Q&A   Update:  Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here\u2019s everything I\u2019m up to today I no longer use Patreon \u2014 you can now support my work on Substack   EPISODE CREDITS: Host \/ Producer \u2013 Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor \u2013 Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation \u2013 Jan Acielo Music \u2013 Nazar Rybak   ","author_name":"Good Girls Talk About Sex","author_url":"https:\/\/www.goodgirlstalk.com","html":"