{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"YDGM Ep 25: Lillian Lartey","description":"Lillian Lartey is my guest in this last episode of 2017. She\u2019s a personal trainer, massage therapist, and I consider her a life coach for women because she is so grounded in her values and commitment to having an extraordinary life. She came over to record this episode, and it was wonderful to spend those 90-minutes together. So much of what she said was illuminating for me about womenhood, and motherhood. Lillian isn\u2019t a mother, and yet, she has so much wisdom about it! \u201cIf we look from the central part of the world going eastwards, a lot of the time when it comes to parenthood, it\u2019s not just the mom taking total responsibility of that child or those children; you\u2019ve got a total village, you\u2019ve got a total town taking care of that child. So that mother doesn\u2019t necessarily have those pressures that they do in the Western world. We also don\u2019t have those pressures of wanting to get a really good job, wanting to have A, B, and C; Take the children to the best school, have the best clothes, have all this money, etc, go on the best holidays - all this pressure adds in. Why? Where as, when we appreciate our lives why we\u2019re here, and that mum gives birth in a village to a child, everybody celebrates that. That\u2019s everybody\u2019s child. It\u2019s not just that mum who\u2019s given birth to that child. It\u2019s everybody\u2019s responsibility.\u201d   Lillian is a personal trainer, massage therapist, and I consider her a life coach for women because she is so grounded in her values and commitment to having an extraordinary life. \u201cFor mums, I believe, and having worked with mums in the type of work that I do, a majority of the time, if they\u2019re under that pressure to have to hand over their baby, at say, at 6 months, even a year, their bodies physically are not ready to let go. Because it\u2019s such an emotional trauma - one, in terms of when you\u2019re pregnant and you\u2019re carrying a child. There\u2019s so many hormonal activities going on. Two, when you give birth. And in three, through nursing that child. And that body, I believe, has to go through a process of recovery, and that includes when you\u2019re doing the releasing of that child to go into someone else\u2019s hands, in terms of going to school or going to nursery, taking care of the house, etc.\u201d   As a life coach, she has helped women, many of them mothers, to focus on themselves and to achieve happiness, building back their health, self-esteem, and love for life. \u201cI\u2019ve had women who wanna be super women, you know business women in particular are like, \u2018Oh yeah, I gave birth yesterday, and I\u2019m here today and I\u2019m treatin\u2019 my clients, I\u2019m speaking to my clients, and I\u2019ve got my baby on my boob\u2026\u2019 And I just think, \u2018Why\u2019? In the Western world there\u2019s this race to get back and to prove yourself that, \u2018I\u2019m a strong woman and I\u2019m going to be a responsible mother, and I can do it all.\u2019 And then they crash and burn.\u201d    Check out Lillian's website for her business, I Want My Body Back.  ","author_name":"You're Doing Great Mom","author_url":"http:\/\/youredoinggreatmom.com","html":"