{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Breaking the Code of Disconnection with Terry Real (Episode 4)","description":"Terry Real was talking about men and intimacy before it was cool. Pause. Seriously, this guy has been a thought leader in helping men break out of the bondage of the Man Rules for three decades. If you care about men having fulfilling relationships that balance intimacy and vulnerability with genuine strength then you will like Terry. He doesn\u2019t mince words. He is direct with humor and compassion much like the relational approach to therapy that he has developed. He wrote the first book calling attention to the epidemic of male depression, I Don't Want to Talk About It. Sharing his own challenges with depression Terry broke the silence about men\u2019s depression. Terry helped our culture to begin to understand that if you don\u2019t pay attention to the Man Rules you will miss so much of men\u2019s depression because it hides in men\u2019s need not to be or look depressed. It is against the Man Rules to be depressed because it is a weakness. I have a good friend struggling horribly with this right now. Like hundreds of thousands of men right now he has this story inside of him beating the sh@# out of him saying that he just needs to \u201cMan up\u201d and get off his ass. Meanwhile, his depression is tearing him apart piecemeal. What\u2019s great about Terry is that he doesn\u2019t let men off the hook and he doesn\u2019t let women off the hook. We all have a part to play in the relationships that don\u2019t work. As Terry says, \u201cLeading men and women into increased intimacy \u2013 men have to open up their hearts and women have to open up their voices.\u201d As always the Practical and Tactical portion of this episode has some great advice for creating true intimacy in our relationships. Like immediately.  ","author_name":"The Man Rules","author_url":"http:\/\/www.themanrules.com","html":"