{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"8: The Traveling Spouse","description":"The Traveling Spouse with Three Degrees member-Valerie Holiday Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 8 Target Audience: Couples in Long Distance Relationships or Frequently Traveling for work Objective: To give information about what things are helpful when you are or have a traveling spouse? About Valerie: *My marriage is Bi-coastal and international. My husband resides in UK, England and I\u2019m in USA, Atlanta. *I\u2019ve been married 3 times. I am a firm believer of the institution of marriage. I knew there was somebody out there who could deal with me and my lifestyle, and it wasn\u2019t going to wreak havoc on the relationship, because they were going to be understanding. *1st marriage lasted 7 yrs, I have son who is 33 from that marriage; 2nd marriage only lasted 2yrs there were too many differences. Currently married 10 yrs but together 14-15yrs Tips For Relationship and Marriage: *When you become involved with someone on a permanent basis, you must accept them for who they are as they must accept you for who you are. *Don\u2019t go into marriage thinking that when you get married you\u2019ll change them. *You must work on the relationship. If you want it to last, you should invest time, effort energy, and patience. It\u2019s not always 50\/50. You might end up with the messy stick most of the time; It may be ok, since you don\u2019t end up with it all the time. A relationship is give and take. Recommendations to help when you\u2019re apart: *Make time for each other- Skype has been an absolute blessing *Call each other to say good morning or good night. What are things you should plan for when starting a Long Distance relationship: *Finances are important *Put money aside for travel *Plan days off around each other\u2019s schedule How do you plan to depart from each other?: *Leave Notes- -Slip a love note in a bag -Leave message on the mirror that can be seen when it fogs up -Get a card Behaviors or things to avoid: *Avoid insecurity- If you travel frequently, a secure relationship is needed. *Avoid Distrust- Develop trust in each other. *Avoid Poor Communication- Make sure you talk and listen to each other. *Don\u2019t be lazy!-It takes time and effort to make it work. Other Tips: *Be patient *Have conversation and make the effort to communicate *Be honest *Find a way to state a complaint or what\u2019s bugging you *Figure out each other\u2019s moods *Don\u2019t go to bed angry *It\u2019s all about working together *Support each other in whatever it is that you each want to do. Benefits to being in a long distance relationship: *Distance allows you to take a break and rethink what you\u2019re arguing about and see it from the other\u2019s point of view. *We overdose on love when we are together, because we miss touching each other when we\u2019re apart. How do you deal with people who are attracted to you while working? *Keep distance maintained with others. *State that you\u2019re in a relationship. *Don\u2019t give your spouse a reason to feel disrespected when they are around. Keep to the same pattern even when they\u2019re not around. What\u2019s the main thing that has made your relationship a success? *Communication and Patience *Recognizing we\u2019re two different personalities *I\u2019ve got his back and he has mine ","author_name":"Relationship Boosters | Couples | Marriage | Intimacy| Love | Family | Counseling | Marriage Advice | Healthy Marriage","author_url":"http:\/\/therelationshipboosters.com\/podcast\/","html":"