{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"How To Use Anger To Strengthen Trust ","description":"Seeking understanding is the last thing we want to do when someone has offended us, tainted our reputation, or put us in harm\u2019s way. It\u2019s far easier to hold tightly to our beliefs, keep our anger, and strengthen our story by gathering all the necessary data and buy-in from others.   It\u2019s risky to seek their perspective and listen openly and authentically to their thought process, particularly when they might not demonstrate such concern in return. They may never ask about our experience, or even appreciate our interest in understanding theirs, making it far easier to keep our animosity and find a way to punish them.   \u201cHe\u2019s my boss\u2019s, boss\u2019s, boss,\u201d Brad said, \u201cAnd I have no idea how to write the letter to his boss explaining how his poor choices put my life in danger. What do I do?\u201d   \u201cDo you have a way of contacting the man you\u2019re upset with directly?\u201d I asked.   \u201cNo. I mean\u2026 I know his name, but I don\u2019t know his contact information.\u201d   \u201cCould you find it?\u201d   \u201cWell, maybe\u2026 but if I do talk to him then I can no longer anonymously submit a formal letter of complaint without the potential of losing my job.\u201d   Considering his brush up against death while fighting a wild fire, I could appreciate his anger. I can also see what he might be giving up by going directly to a formal letter of complaint. By seeking to punish before seeking to understand their perspective, we lose our ability to\u2014   a.) Challenge our own stories and grow in awareness, b.) Learn the truth behind their decisions, and c.) Offer insights that may very well save others from the same experience.    By consistently giving ourselves a chance to understand another person\u2019s perspective (especially when anger is present), we stretch our heart, develop compassion, and strengthen relationships. Such actions create a sense of safety in our presence and serve to strengthen trust.    If it\u2019s true that most of us are doing the best we can with the information we have in the moment, does it make sense to risk our tightly held beliefs in service of growth? Is it possible that by assuming well of others and seeking to understand them, we attract the same kind of understanding in our life?   While learning to listen in the face of pain (anger, sadness, and even grief) is far from easy, practicing cannot help but strengthen our own courage while deepening trust.    Here\u2019s to your greatness,   Misti Burmeister   P.S. If you\u2019d like to attract the NFL players of your industry and aren\u2019t sure where to begin, check out my latest book.   ","author_name":"Provoking Your Greatness - Misti Burmeister","author_url":"http:\/\/www.measurablegreatness.com","html":"