{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Here\u2019s the One Big Difference Between Begging and Magnetizing ","description":"Ever been in a touristy area where you were bombarded with restaurant staff doing their best dance to get your into their establishment? Often, they start with their own version of \u201chello,\u201d and then quickly make their way to, \u201cCome eat?\u201d The first couple of times, saying, \u201cNo, thank you,\u201d is no big deal. But after a while it gets annoying, and you start avoiding their side of the road. Even still, one lady in Sorrento, Italy, called out across the road to us, \u201cHey girls, what are you doing?\u201d Apparently, she thought this approach would work better than her usual of, \u201cCome and eat girls?\u201d \u201cWe\u2019re going for a walk,\u201d I responded, avoiding eye contact and continuing in the direction of the shops. \u201cWell, stop walking and come eat,\u201d she commanded, as if such a tactic might actually work. And it did, just not to her advantage. It literally made me stop and think\u2014If you have to beg us to eat there, your food probably isn\u2019t very good. From that moment forward, we avoided any restaurant with staff trying to lure us in, and used Trip Advisor as our guide. Interestingly, the restaurants we found through our searches were so busy making delicious food and taking care of their customers that they didn\u2019t need someone on the streets luring people in. The reality of this experience got me thinking\u2014Where do I spend time begging in my life, and why? It didn\u2019t take long to begin seeing where I have unknowingly begged\u2014friendships, customers, appreciation, opportunities and even love. There\u2019s a distinct difference between asking and begging. The artist painting in the middle of the piazza in Aci Castello\u2014a small town just outside of Catania, Italy\u2014demonstrated the art of asking when she put the painting I was eyeing into my hands. Not ready to buy yet, I thanked her, put it down and walked away. Unable to get her passionate energy and beautiful artwork out of my mind, I found my way back to the piazza the next night and joyfully watched as she painted the picture I took home. Beyond the painting, I bought her confidence, passion, and love of the craft. She\u2019s in business to make money, but ultimately it was her unbridled love for her work that lured me back out late into the evening as I watched her masterpiece come to life. It was an experience I will remember for a lifetime and a lesson that will stay with me forever. Customers, friends, and moments of appreciation come and go, but our passion and love for our craft (and ourselves) grows in proportion to the attention we give it. While we\u2019ll never be able to control whether or not people like, appreciate, or pick us for the opportunity, we get to control the time and effort put into sharing our passion, while learning to trust that the right people will come and the wrong ones will go. As one social media expert once said, \u201cThe people who want your stuff, want your stuff.\u201d The idea is simple and incredibly instructive. Rather than waste time begging people to pick you, focus, focus, focus on strengthening your confidence as you share your passion. People buy confidence because it\u2019s unique and tasty. By focusing on making delicious dishes and creating a unique eating experience, these restaurants wind up with excellent reviews and attracting even more customers who want the very experience they love to offer. The best chefs, artists, sales professionals, speakers, engineers and the like, love their craft and they want to share it with the world. Do you? Consider joining me in taking on this challenge for 1 year: focus your time and energy on loving the work you do and asking for opportunities to do more of the work you love. Show up, give your best, acknowledge yourself, appreciate the lessons you\u2019ll undoubtedly encounter, and watch as you become the one with rave reviews and a line up of opportunities knocking on your door. Here\u2019s to your greatness, Misti Burmeister P.S. If you\u2019d like to attract the NFL players of your industry and aren\u2019t sure where to begin, check out my latest book.   ","author_name":"Provoking Your Greatness - Misti Burmeister","author_url":"http:\/\/www.measurablegreatness.com","html":"