{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Branching Beyond Playing It Safe","description":"On this episode, I\u2019d like to talk about playing it safe. As a teacher, I hear this all the time: -- I\u2019m going to go to college to get the four year degree -- I\u2019m going to get my dream job -- I will be happy But, I have to admit, while college was so important for my own personal growth, I\u2019m not really sure if a four-year degree is worth it for everybody. Well, at least it\u2019s not worth it anymore to take the safe route. Why? Well, because quite honestly, I\u2019ve met many former students who went to college for what their parents wanted them to do instead of what they wanted to do and a few years after college, I often hear them talk of enrolling once again in college to get the degree they actually wanted. Take Brian for example. The last time I saw Brian, he had just gotten his prom photo taken and ran a 5-minute mile on the school track team. But now, as I looked in front of me stood a grown man with a beard donning a set of nurse scrubs. \u201cMr. Guay\u2026is that you?\u201d he said as I carefully adjusted my paper-thin gown that doctors give patients before a physical exam. \u201cWhy yes it is.\u201d I replied with a sheepish grin feeling a bit like a celebrity on one hand and on the other hand making sure my gown covered my buttocks. \u201cHow have you been Brian? You still running these days?\u201d I said. He shot back a look of surprise. \u201cYou remember me?\u201d he said. \u201cOf course\u201d I replied. We talked for a few minutes and in that short span of time as Brian took my height and weight before the doctor arrived, he had said what I cringe to hear. \u201cI\u2019m currently working as a nurse, but thinking of going back to school for business so I can open up a food truck.\u201d Brian explained to me that he originally went to school for nursing because his parents had said it was the smart thing to do. But he\u2019s bored \u2014 really bored \u2014 and he feels the calling to follow his inspiration and open up a food truck. Brian is not alone and unfortunately, I hear this quite a bit. Like Brian, many people leave high school to begin a career or get a degree in something that is safe. I don\u2019t blame them at all. Growing up in a blue-collar family, I know the feeling of depending on the next paycheck. It\u2019s a terrible feeling. So I get safe. But playing it safe rarely works out. So, what holds people back from following their bliss and living inspired? A bit of ancient wisdom may have the answer. The Four Branches That Hold Us Back We are a deeply rooted species that is resistant to change say Chip and Dan Heath, two sociologists at Stanford who have devoted their lives to helping make large-scale societal shifts a real thing. Their book Switch changed my life and got me to better understand how to make real large-scale change on the systematic level. The Heath brothers explain that over time and through generations, we have come to define (and very slowly redefine) the idea of \u201cnormal\u201d or \u201ccommon sense\u201d. This clouds our perception as we go through life and steers us away from any path that isn\u2019t considered safe. In yoga, we call this Avidya which translates as the film that covers our ability to see clearly. To see clearly, we need to let go of the following: Attachment Attachment is the tug-o-war between owning things and having them own you. It\u2019s what makes some people need a Rolex to feel successful and others (like some Jains in India) to literally have (or wear) nothing at all to feel content. It\u2019s getting upset when you can\u2019t find that favorite pair of yoga pants and getting upset when someone offers unsolicited criticism. It\u2019s that feeling of disappointment when a dream you held on to for so long is holding you back from living the life that is waiting for you. Join me in trying this: In meditation or perhaps when you have only a few seconds in the subway commute and are feeling upset, repeat the mantra \u201cLet Go\u201d. On a deep inhale say to yourself \u201cLet\u201d and on the exhale say \u201cGo\u201d. Ego Like you can\u2019t see the current when in the river, but can easily see the swift moving water when sitting on the shore, ego is there with us as we swim through life. Ego is the wall we put up to separate ourselves from another. It\u2019s the identity crisis that follows losing a job and the reason we stand in line for hour on Black Friday to get the shiny new object for a price we can actually afford. It\u2019s the fancy letters we put before our names to represent a degree and the selfie I took at the gym yesterday. But it\u2019s also feeling guilty when you do have the shiny new objects, the fancy letters, or the bulging biceps. Join me in trying this: When I feel emotions getting the best of me, I turn inward to my breath and through meditation begin to see ego hiding behind my emotions. When I call out ego, the curtain gets pushed aside and it no longer controls me. The next time you find emotions getting the best of you, ask yourself \u201cIs this my ego talking?\u201d Fear Fear is doubting our ability to slay the Arthurian dragon that hides the gold. It\u2019s not taking that first step because you don\u2019t feel ready to run a marathon or not joining a yoga studio because you don\u2019t look like a Lululemon model. It\u2019s bundling up our kids so much they look like a fluffy marshmallow when they board the morning school bus. It\u2019s the voice inside our heads that like to say \u201cyou can\u2019t do that\u201d and it\u2019s the reason we idolize celebrities as if they were any different than us. Join me in trying this: Often times, we fear most what we can\u2019t control. So, find something you do have control over that you\u2019re scared of and do something about it. For me, I\u2019m terrified of heights and I can control whether or not I go rock climbing in a safe indoor facility. And boy, you should see me. I shake and quiver as I climb up those rocks and probably look ridiculous. But I\u2019m pushing through fear. Rejection Rejection is falling off the proverbial horse and not getting back up on it to try again. It\u2019s getting bullied on the playground and taking a new route home to avoid the bullies. It\u2019s appearing on Shark Tank in hopes to land that needed seed funding only to be laughed off the stage with no money in the bank, then never starting up a business again. Simply put, it\u2019s settling for anything less than the greatest version of yourself. Join me in trying this: Whenever you feel scared to try again, read the biographies of the people you wish to emulate. Like Michael Jordan, Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, and Thomas Edison, living out the greatest version of oneself always has a not-so-beautiful trail of failures that lead to that one ten-year-overnight success. So be patient, trust in yourself, and go after whatever it is that is in your heart of hearts. ","author_name":"Your Life on Purpose","author_url":"http:\/\/markwguay.me","html":"