{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"When Your Child Comes Out: Grace, Conviction, and What to Say First | Rob Jackson","description":"What do you say in the first ten minutes after your child tells you they identify as LGBT? And what do you do when your first thought is \u201cWhat will people at church think?\u201d In this episode of Sparking Everyday Discipleship, Terrie talks with Rob Jackson, a licensed professional counselor with Focus on the Family and author of When Grace Meets Conviction: Loving God and Your LGBT Child. Rob draws on years of calls from Christian parents to show how to keep your convictions and your relationship with your child at the same time. He explains why accepting your child is not the same as affirming everything they believe, and why Christian parenting was never a formula. He also gives churches a challenge: if you haven\u2019t thought through how you\u2019ll minister in this area, you\u2019re already behind. In this episode: What to say, and what not to say, right after your child comes out Why your child\u2019s choices are not a verdict on your parenting Praying honestly within a new reality without endorsing it Keeping the relationship open when you won\u2019t agree on everything How churches can stay biblical and still be approachable Talking with young children about God\u2019s design without teaching them contempt Neurodivergence, belonging, and why asking questions beats making assumptions \u201cIf it\u2019s not a moral issue, let\u2019s not make it one\u201d \u23f1 CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro 01:12 Meet Rob Jackson and his 100-question book for parents 02:47 What to say in the first moments after your child comes out 05:40 Family reputation, parental shame, and the myth of a parenting formula 08:10 Renewing your mind and praying within a new reality 10:10 Keeping conversations open and preparing the church 14:23 Talking with younger children without modeling contempt 17:43 Neurodivergence, belonging, and asking instead of assuming 22:20 \u201cIf it\u2019s not a moral issue, let\u2019s not make it one\u201d 23:28 How to contact Focus on the Family and find the book \ud83d\udcda MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE When Grace Meets Conviction: Loving God and Your LGBT Child by Rob Jackson. Learn about the book, Rob\u2019s new parents group, and his work with churches at gracemeetsconviction.com. Focus on the Family counseling: Call 1-800-A-FAMILY (1-800-232-6459), Monday\u2013Friday, or request help anytime at focusonthefamily.com\/get-help. Scripture referenced: Genesis 1:27, Luke 15:11\u201332, John 14:15, Romans 12:2 Reflect: Do you treat your child more like a person to love or a project to manage? What would it look like this week to keep the door open? From Hypurpley Publishing, this podcast\u2019s sponsor: We offer traditional publishing and walk authors through independent publishing. Learn more at hypurpleypublishing.com. Questions or comments? Leave them below. We\u2019d love to hear from you. Mixed Needs Mama and Sparking Everyday Discipleship are part of The Whole Family, encouragement for families raising kids with different needs. #sparkingeverydaydiscipleship #christianparenting ","author_name":"Sparking Everyday Discipleship","author_url":"http:\/\/booksthatspark.libsyn.com\/website","html":"