{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"4212 Before You Say A Word","description":"You know that moment right before the words leave your mouth \u2014  your pulse is up, your thoughts are racing, and everything in you wants to say the thing. To set the record straight. To be heard. To fire back. But before you say a word, what if the most powerful thing you could do in that moment is nothing at all? What if the gap between the feeling and the speaking is actually one of the wisest places God has given you to stand? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https:\/\/createyournow.com #SweetSpirit #CreateYourNow #SoulfulSunday We live in a world that celebrates the quick comeback. The sharp reply. The person who always has something to say and says it loudly. "Wisdom has never been about being the loudest voice in the room. Wisdom is about being the most anchored one." ~ Kristianne Wargo Scroll through any comment section and you\u2019ll see it \u2014 everyone rushing to speak, and very few stopping to listen.  James 1:19\u201320 puts it plainly: \u201cMy dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.\u201d  Quick to listen. Slow to speak. Slow to become angry. Notice the order. It\u2019s intentional. God doesn\u2019t start with what comes out of your mouth. He starts with what you let into your heart. Listening comes first \u2014 listening to Him, listening to others, listening to what\u2019s really happening beneath the surface of a situation \u2014 before a single word is formed. And here\u2019s the thing about listening: it\u2019s not passive. Real listening, the kind that wisdom requires, takes more strength than speaking ever will. It means setting your own agenda aside. It means not rehearsing your response while someone else is still talking. It means trusting that God can handle the silence while you sit in it long enough to hear what He\u2019s actually saying. Think about the people in your life who have spoken the most life into you. Chances are, they weren\u2019t the ones who talked the most. They listened deeply and then offered words that carried weight. That\u2019s not an accident. Proverbs 17:28 tells us, \u201cEven fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues.\u201d There is a credibility, a gravity, that comes with restraint. When you don\u2019t react to everything, when you choose your words carefully, people lean in. They trust what you say because you don\u2019t waste it. "Words carry wisdom. And wisdom carries weight. Walk in wisdom." ~ Kristianne Wargo The K.I.S.S. ~ Before you say a word! Now, let\u2019s be honest. This is hard. Especially when someone has hurt you. Especially when you know you\u2019re right. Especially when the situation feels urgent and your emotions are telling you that if you don\u2019t speak now, the moment will pass. But wisdom is not afraid of the moment passing. Wisdom knows that the right word at the wrong time can do just as much damage as the wrong word altogether. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, \u201cA gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.\u201d Gentle doesn\u2019t mean weak. Gentle means measured. Intentional. Held in the hands of God before it\u2019s released into the world. Before you say a word might look like: It looks like pausing before you send that text. It looks like taking a breath before you respond to your teenager, your spouse, your coworker, your friend. It looks like asking God, \u201cWhat do You want me to say here?\u201d \u2014 and being genuinely willing to hear the answer, even when that answer is \u201cNothing right now.\u201d It looks like valuing the relationship more than being right and valuing God\u2019s righteousness more than your own vindication. Walking in wisdom means understanding that your words carry weight. Every single one of them. And the woman who walks with God doesn\u2019t throw her words around carelessly. She holds them. She weighs them. She offers them when they will build and withholds them when they will break. That is not silence born from fear. That is silence born from faith \u2014 faith that God sees, God hears, and God will make all things right in His timing. Today, before you say a word, give yourself permission to pause. You don\u2019t have to have the last word. You don\u2019t have to respond in the heat of the moment. You don\u2019t have to prove anything to anyone. The God who created the universe with His words is the same God who invites you to steward yours. Listen first. Breathe. Pray. And when you do speak, let it be life. Let it be truth wrapped in grace. Let it be wisdom made audible. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"   \ud83d\udd14 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https:\/\/createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation  - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. 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