{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Ep. 333 | What Are You Afraid Their No Means?","description":"Have you ever wanted to do something, say something, or ask for something\u2014and before you even took the first step, you were already imagining how someone might respond? Maybe they\u2019ll say no. Maybe they\u2019ll disagree. Maybe they won\u2019t choose you. And before anything has even happened, you\u2019ve already decided what their response will mean about you. In this episode, we\u2019re talking about projection and the stories we create around other people\u2019s reactions. Because sometimes what keeps us stuck isn\u2019t actually rejection\u2014it\u2019s what we\u2019re afraid rejection will confirm. \u201cThey said no\u201d becomes \u201cI\u2019m not enough.\u201d \u201cThey disagree\u201d becomes \u201cI should\u2019ve kept my mouth shut.\u201d \u201cThey didn\u2019t choose me\u201d becomes \u201cI\u2019m not someone people love.\u201d That\u2019s a lot of weight to put on one person\u2019s answer. There\u2019s the pain of what happens, and then there\u2019s the story we tell ourselves afterward. And sometimes, we start telling that story before anything has even happened. We reject our own ideas. We stay quiet. We convince ourselves we\u2019re too old, too much, too inexperienced, or that it\u2019s safer not to try. But what if someone else\u2019s response didn\u2019t get to decide what you believe about yourself? We\u2019ll talk about the fear underneath so much of this\u2014the tender question of, \u201cIf I show you the real me, will you still love me?\u201d\u2014and how that fear can slowly teach us to hide parts of ourselves in order to protect connection. You don\u2019t have to become fearless before you put yourself out there. You can feel afraid and still send the message. You can feel unsure and still ask the question. You can care what people think and still share something that matters to you. This week, I want you to notice one thing you\u2019ve been holding back because you\u2019re afraid of the response\u2014and give yourself the chance to find out what\u2019s actually possible. Because whatever the answer is, you can stay on your own side. You deserve the chance to be seen, to be known, and to find out what\u2019s possible. ","author_name":"Creating Her Best Life","author_url":"http:\/\/bflycoaching.libsyn.com\/website","html":"