{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"091 How to Unlearn Old Patterns and Rewire Your Identity","description":" Vladi Kuna and Norman Gr\u00e4ter explore how to unlearn old habits, beliefs, and behaviors to make room for change. They discuss why awareness comes first, how to separate a behavior from your identity, and how a small pause can help you respond differently when a familiar trigger shows up. In this episode, Vladi and Norman discuss: Why it helps to \u201cempty the cup\u201d before trying to learn something new Making space for change physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually The four levels of consciousness and the role of subconscious habits How to notice automatic patterns, triggers, and recurring thought loops Separating who you are from a behavior you\u2019ve learned Building change through small, repeatable steps rather than trying to overhaul everything at once Using breathing, counting, and a brief pause to interrupt a reaction Taking another perspective during conflict Using a shared code word to notice and break a recurring argument pattern How expectations and repeated attention can reinforce unwanted patterns Timestamps (0:00) Introducing the question: How can I unlearn? (1:08) Making room for something new (2:01) Why awareness is the first step (3:01) The four levels of consciousness (4:46) The six steps for unlearning (6:34) Identifying triggers and automatic patterns (7:46) Why patterns can be difficult to notice (9:17) Stepping back to observe yourself (10:14) The three-position exercise for understanding conflict (12:10) Separating your identity from your behavior (14:15) Creating change one small habit at a time (15:32) Addressing actions without judging a person\u2019s worth (19:16) Pausing and breathing before reacting (22:29) Recognizing familiar loops in relationships (24:13) Using a code word to interrupt a conflict pattern (26:44) Expectations and the patterns we reinforce (29:28) Using a positive cue to make a pattern break feel supportive (30:09) Recap and closing The six-step unlearning process Become aware of your automatic program. Separate the habit from your identity. Interrupt the pattern before replacing it. Replace the old pattern rather than simply trying to remove it. Rehearse the new identity before you need it. Collect evidence for the new you. ","author_name":"Faith Building Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/sites.libsyn.com\/561010","html":"