{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"How To Stop Negative People From Infecting Your Mindset \u26a1","description":"How to Protect Your Mindset From Negative People Have you ever shared a goal, dream, or idea with someone only to have them immediately tell you why it won\u2019t work? Maybe you\u2019ve been told you\u2019re not smart enough, talented enough, experienced enough, attractive enough, or capable enough. Or maybe you have someone in your life who seems to find something negative to say about almost everything you\u2019re trying to accomplish. In this episode of The Men\u2019s Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores how other people\u2019s negativity can slowly become part of your own internal dialogue \u2014 and what you can do to stop that from happening. Using personal stories, psychology, humor, and practical examples, John shares five principles for protecting your mindset without falling into the trap of simply ignoring every person who disagrees with you. You\u2019ll learn why it\u2019s important to ask whether negative feedback is actually true, how to separate useful criticism from somebody else\u2019s crap, and why another person\u2019s cynicism may sometimes say more about their experiences than your potential. You\u2019ll also discover why negativity can become contagious, why new goals sometimes need protection before they need publicity, and how to stop internalizing messages that were never yours to begin with. \ud83e\udde0 In This Episode, You\u2019ll Explore: \u2022 How to ask yourself whether negative feedback is actually true \u2022 The difference between constructive feedback and destructive criticism \u2022 Why some people respond negatively when someone around them begins changing \u2022 How chronic negativity can influence your own thinking \u2022 Why you should be careful who gets access to a dream while it\u2019s still developing \u2022 The idea of \u201cbuild before you broadcast\u201d \u2022 How social media can keep us so busy being influenced that we forget to influence ourselves \u2022 Why you don\u2019t have to internalize somebody else\u2019s bitterness, cynicism, or regret \u2022 Freud\u2019s psychosexual stages and the concept of an anal-expulsive personality \u2022 A listener question about social anxiety, self-consciousness, and replaying conversations afterward \u2022 Why using alcohol as \u201cliquid courage\u201d in social situations can become problematic \u2022 Practical ways to move attention away from yourself during socially anxious moments \u2022 Why feeling awkward doesn\u2019t necessarily mean you looked awkward \ud83d\udcda Recommended Reading The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook by Martin M. Antony and Richard P. Swinson A practical workbook using cognitive-behavioral strategies to help people better understand and work through shyness and social anxiety. See Amazon for price \ud83d\udd17 Resources Mentioned Freud\u2019s Psychosexual Stages of Development Simply Psychology https:\/\/www.simplypsychology.org\/psychosexual.html Quick Overview of Chicago\u2019s Metropolitan Correctional Center A short YouTube video offering a quick overview of the Metropolitan Correctional Center in downtown Chicago. https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=rThWng-X6c8 \ud83c\udfa7 Related Episode The Power of No: How to Say No Without Guilt Learn why saying no can feel so difficult and how clearer boundaries can help you stop organizing your life around other people\u2019s expectations. https:\/\/guycounseling.com\/say-no-without-guilt\/ \ud83d\udd14 Man-Firm-Ation I decide which voices I allow to shape my life. Someone else\u2019s negativity does not have to become my reality. I protect my dreams, my hopes and my light. Remember: somebody else gets to have an opinion about you. You get to decide whether you make that opinion your reality. Don\u2019t let somebody else\u2019s negativity infect your positivity. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for mental health counseling. \ud83d\udce2 Affiliate & Sponsor Disclosure This episode may include paid sponsorships or affiliate links. If you make a purchase, sign up for a service, or take another qualifying action through one of these links, The Men\u2019s Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Sponsors and recommended resources may vary by episode. \ud83d\udc99 Episode Sponsor: BetterHelp This episode of The Men\u2019s Self-Help Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get started: Visit Better Help \ud83d\udcf1 Follow on Social Media \ud83d\udc49 Facebook Guy Counseling \ud83d\udc49 Instagram Guy Counseling \ud83d\udcdd Thought Court Worksheet \u2014 Free Listener Resource Want to challenge an unhelpful thought and look at it from a more balanced perspective? Dr. John created a free Thought Court worksheet you can download and use on your own. The accompanying Guy Counseling guide walks you through the exercise step by step. No signup. No email address. No strings attached. Just grab it and use it if it\u2019s helpful. Download the Free Thought Court Worksheet + How-To Guide \u2615 Support the Show If you've found value in this podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can do so through Buy Me a Coffee. Your support helps cover production costs, hosting, editing, and future episodes of The Men's Self-Help Podcast. \ud83d\udc49 https:\/\/buymeacoffee.com\/mensselfhelp \ud83c\udf99\ufe0f Production Notes Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording with synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy. ","author_name":"THE MEN'S SELF HELP PODCAST","author_url":"https:\/\/guycounseling.com","html":"