{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"ep 148 \/ ADHD & Relationships: It\u2019s Not \u201cTry Harder\u201d\u2014It\u2019s Try Differently","description":"What happens when ADHD walks into a relationship? In this eye-opening episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona welcome Natalie Wiseman, a Vancouver- and Florida-based counsellor who specializes in working with couples affected by ADHD, to explore how this neurodevelopmental disorder can shape everything from household responsibilities to intimacy. Natalie explains why ADHD can be mistaken for laziness, carelessness, or a lack of commitment\u2014and why understanding the difference between intent and impact is so important. They talk about time blindness, forgotten promises, unequal responsibilities, impulsivity, interruptions, defensiveness, and the frustrating parent-child dynamic that can develop when one partner chronically over-functions for the other. They also explore the ADHD \u201chyperfocus\u201d that can make a new relationship feel intensely passionate in the beginning, rejection sensitive dysphoria, and why diagnosis can be such a game-changer. As Iona puts it, understanding ADHD can transform \u201cWhy are you doing this to me?\u201d into \u201cOh\u2026 this is what's happening.\u201d Natalie shares practical strategies for creating systems that put responsibility back where it belongs\u2014from automatic bill payments to phone alarms and structured routines\u2014and explains why the ADHD partner, rather than their spouse, needs to own those systems.  ADHD isn't an excuse, but understanding it can open the door to compassion, accountability, and real change. It's not try harder. It's try differently. More about Natalie's work: https:\/\/therapycures.com More about Melissa Orlov's work: https:\/\/www.adhdmarriage.com ","author_name":"Relationship Dish","author_url":"http:\/\/relationshipdish.com\/","html":"