{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Penis Size Anxiety: "My Girlfriend Said I\u2019m Too Small" \ud83d\udd25","description":"What happens when someone you love says the one thing about your body you were already afraid might be true? In this episode of The Men\u2019s Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John is joined by Jack to talk about an email from a 23-year-old listener whose girlfriend told him during a heated moment that she had wanted to break up with him because his penis was too small. She had been drinking and later apologized, but the relationship ultimately ended. We're talking about penis size anxiety, worries about not being "big" enough.  This episode is sponsored by Better Help. The conversation opens into a much larger issue that many men quietly struggle with: penis-size anxiety and male body image. Dr. John and Jack talk about how a painful comment can attach itself to an existing insecurity, why body anxiety isn\u2019t just a women\u2019s issue, and how shame can eventually lead some men to avoid dating, sex, nudity, and intimacy altogether. Dr. John also shares the story of a former client whose anxiety about his penis became so powerful that he would apologize to partners before having sex. The episode explores an important question: How do you keep someone else\u2019s judgment about your body from becoming your own? In This Episode Penis-size anxiety and male body image What can happen when a partner targets an existing insecurity Why an apology doesn\u2019t necessarily make you forget what was said How negative self-talk can reinforce body shame The connection between shame, avoidance, and intimacy Why men may struggle silently with body-image concerns How one painful experience can begin affecting future relationships Recommended Reading Dr. John recommends the book: The Penis Book: A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis--From Size to Function and Everything in Between. See Amazon. Mentioned in This Episode Dr. John and Jack also discuss a related Couples Counseling Chicago article about another man\u2019s experience after his girlfriend made a painful comment about his penis size during intimacy. My Girlfriend Said My Penis Is Too Small Man Moment Somebody else's words are not your inheritance. What they said in that moment \u2014 that's their lens, their history, their stuff. It doesn't get to live in your body rent-free. You get to decide what you carry forward and what you set back down. So set it down. Take that with you. Thought Court Worksheet - Free Listener Resource Want to challenge an unhelpful thought and look at it from a more balanced perspective? Dr. John created a free Thought Court worksheet you can download and use on your own. The accompanying Guy Counseling guide walks you through the exercise step by step. No signup. No email address. No strings attached. Just grab it and use it if it\u2019s helpful. Download the Free Thought Court Worksheet + How-To Guide Contact The Show If you would like to contact the show with a question or submit a listener email, you can visit the pod's website Guy Counseling. Use this link for the contact form. Keep in mind we get a lot of email and not all questions will be featured on the pod. When you write, please let us know if we have your permission to feature your question. Identifying information may be changed to protect privacy. Follow On Social Media \ud83d\udc49 Facebook Guy Counseling \ud83d\udc49 Instagram Guy Counseling Support the Show \u2615 If you've found value in this podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can do so through Buy Me a Coffee. Your support helps cover production costs, hosting, editing, and future episodes of The Men's Self-Help Podcast. \ud83d\udc49 https:\/\/buymeacoffee.com\/mensselfhelp Disclaimer The Men\u2019s Self-Help Podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not therapy and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or professional mental health treatment. If you are struggling, please contact a qualified professional where you live. Affiliate & Sponsor Disclosure This episode may include paid sponsorships or affiliate links. If you make a purchase, sign up for a service, or take another qualifying action through one of these links, The Men\u2019s Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Sponsors and recommended resources may vary by episode. Production Notes Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy. ","author_name":"THE MEN'S SELF HELP PODCAST","author_url":"https:\/\/guycounseling.com","html":"