{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"The Need For Control: What You're Really Trying to Protect","description":"Why do we try so hard to control what happens next\u2014even when we know we can\u2019t? In this episode, I\u2019m breaking down one of the most powerful drivers of the automatic mind: our basic human needs. We all have six fundamental needs, but the first four\u2014certainty, variety, significance, and love and connection\u2014are deeply connected to the patterns we develop to feel safe, secure, accepted, and in control. The problem isn\u2019t that we have these needs. The problem begins when our automatic mind decides that one of them must be protected at all costs. I\u2019ll show you how the need for certainty can turn into gripping and controlling, why uncertainty can feel so threatening even when nothing is actually wrong, and what changes when you stop trying to control the outcome and start intentionally choosing who you want to be in the middle of the unknown. Because you don\u2019t have to control what happens next to intentionally create who you become next. In this episode, you\u2019ll learn: \u2022 The six basic human needs and why they matter \u2022 How the automatic mind uses control to create emotional safety \u2022 Why certainty and predictability can quietly keep you stuck \u2022 The two human needs that can change everything \u2022 How to move from controlling the outcome to intentionally creating your response ","author_name":"Dethroning Your Inner Critic Podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/www.dethroningyourinnercritic.com","html":"