{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"What If You\u2019re Trying TOO Hard to Help Your Teenager?","description":"You love your teenager. So when they come to you with a problem, of course you want to help. But what if all that helping is actually making it harder for your teenager to talk to you, and harder for them to build confidence in themselves? In this episode, I\u2019m challenging the belief that being a good mom means giving your teenager the answers they need. Because your teenager doesn\u2019t just need good answers from you. They need opportunities to discover that they can find answers themselves. We\u2019ll talk about why immediately reassuring your teenager isn\u2019t always confidence-building, what can happen when you unintentionally start thinking FOR them, and how your loving attempts to help can change their experience of talking to you. And I\u2019ll give you one question to start asking yourself: Am I helping my teenager think, or am I doing the thinking for them? Because you don\u2019t want your teenager dependent on you for every answer. But you don\u2019t want disconnection either. You want to become someone your teenager feels safe thinking out loud WITH. Maybe the thing that needs to change isn\u2019t your teenager\u2019s willingness to talk. Maybe it\u2019s the pattern that happens when they do. If you want help seeing the patterns happening between you and your teenager that may be creating distance\u2014even when you\u2019re trying to create closeness, join me for the Trusted Lab workshop on September 9th. \u2192 https:\/\/lab.kristenduke.com\/  You can\u2019t do different until you SEE different. ","author_name":"TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke","author_url":"https:\/\/kristenduke.com\/trusted-by-your-teenager-podcast\/","html":"