{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Episode 388: 4 Tips to Improve Your Influence When Asking Kids (or Anyone) to Change","description":" Have you ever started a conversation with the goal of guiding your child, only to have them argue, shut down, or become defensive? It\u2019s easy to assume you need better words. But often, what matters more is whether the other person feels safe enough to actually hear those words. And that doesn\u2019t mean agreeing with them, making them happy, or avoiding things they don\u2019t want to hear. In this episode, you'll learn how to increase your influence in any conversation, without trying harder to convince, explain, or get the \u201cright\u201d response. In this episode, you\u2019ll hear: \u2022 The common thing we do when we really want someone to hear us that can make them even less likely to listen \u2022 One subtle shift that can make someone less defensive, even when you still need to address their behavior \u2022 Why ending a conversation before it feels finished may give your words more impact -- FREE RESOURCE: Does your child have a narrow zone of tolerance? Get support from Rachel   ","author_name":"Your Parenting Long Game","author_url":"http:\/\/www.Rachel-Bailey.com\/podcast","html":"