{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"4:1 Calm, Confident, Clear: Anchoring to Your Wise Self","description":"In this episode, Susan introduces the core idea behind Internal Family Systems and what it means for parenting: beneath our anxiety, anger, and overwhelm is a calm, confident &quot;Wise Self&quot; \u2014 the steady part of us that functions as the Captain of the ship for our kids. When our children act out, it's a protective part of us that takes over, not our true Self.  Why our reactive outbursts (&quot;I didn't mean to say that!&quot;) come from protective parts, not our Wise Self. How old wounds get reactivated by our kids' behavior, fueling out-of-proportion reactions. Why the real work of parenting isn't finding the perfect script, but learning to stay anchored to our calm, &quot;captain of the ship&quot; Self.  Transcript available at this page ","author_name":"Parenting Without Power Struggles","author_url":"http:\/\/www.SusanStiffelman.com\/podcast","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/42362970\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/content\/204904265"}