{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"You\u2019re Not Lazy: Why You Can\u2019t Jump from Stuck to Motivated","description":"If you\u2019ve ever tried to force  yourself out of procrastination, you know how well that works. You can know exactly what to do. You can have the time. You can want the result so badly it aches \u2014 and still find yourself answering emails, returning something to Nordstrom, or deciding the junk drawer has to be dealt with right now. That isn\u2019t laziness. Laziness would be doing nothing, and you are doing a great deal. You\u2019re just not doing the one thing that matters. Which means the problem was never your character. It\u2019s the state you\u2019re in. In this first Rewire Friday, D\u2019Arcy takes you inside a training room where a woman she calls Sarah volunteered her procrastination for a demonstration and landed on the honest word for it: not incapable, not lazy. Stagnant. And instead of asking how to make her motivated, the trainer asked the question almost nobody asks \u2014 what would get you out of the state you\u2019re in? Inside: what a state actually is and why naming one changes what you can do next, the cost of turning a behavior into an identity, the difference between the states that push you and the states that pull you \u2014 and why procrastination is neither, which is exactly why willpower slides off it. Ten minutes, one rewire, one question to ask before Monday. Timestamps: 2:27 \u2014 The word that changes everything: not incapable, not lazy \u2014 stagnant 3:00 \u2014 The trainer\u2019s question instead of \u201cHow do we get you motivated?\u201d 3:32 \u2014 Why wanting the result isn\u2019t enough\u2014and the difference between desire and the state that creates action 4:08 \u2014 Why motivation is rarely the next state, and finding the bridge that gets you there 6:11 \u2014 The cost of turning a behavior into an identity: \u201cI procrastinated, so I\u2019m lazy\u201d 6:57 \u2014 States that push you, states that pull you, and why procrastination is neither 8:15 \u2014 Chaining anchors: what change work actually looks like, and why D\u2019Arcy isn\u2019t teaching it here 10:42 \u2014 What Sarah said when it was over\u2014and why the goal is freedom, not productivity 11:50 \u2014 The one question to ask this week instead of yelling at yourself ","author_name":"Play It Brave Podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/thepathpodcast.libsyn.com\/website","html":"