{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Have we outsourced our point of voice & taste? And how to get it back","description":" We live in the most connected, most inspired, most information-rich time in human history \u2014 and somehow, a lot of us are struggling to answer a very simple question: What do I actually think?   In this solo episode, I'm exploring what I've been calling "external noise" \u2014 the constant stream of opinions, aesthetics, expert takes, and algorithm-fed content that shapes our preferences before we've had a chance to form our own. It started with a moment standing in my closet, unable to figure out what felt like me. But it quickly became about something much bigger: whether we've slowly lost confidence in our own point of view.   This isn't an anti-social media episode. It's a conversation about discernment \u2014 the practice of being influenced without being consumed, and building a strong enough sense of self that the world adds to you instead of defining you. IN THIS EPISODE The closet moment that started it all \u2014 and why it wasn't really about clothes What "external noise" actually means (hint: it's not just social media) Why influence isn't new, but the volume, speed, and intimacy of it is The neuroscience behind why we adopt other people's preferences without realizing it \u2014 the mere exposure effect explained Why I stopped wearing my Oura Ring and what it taught me about outsourcing my own experience What two years of fertility opinions taught me about trusting myself Body image, repetition, and the realization that some of my preferences were borrowed \u2014 not mine The difference between admiration and alignment Five steps to strengthen your internal filter: Notice, Ask, Filter, Experiment, Reflect Why the goal isn't certainty \u2014 it's becoming rooted enough that the world adds to you RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED Figuring It Out on Instagram Email Hailey: hailey@hailey-miller.com Rate & review the show on Apple Podcasts or Spotify   If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it \u2014 and let me know what you think via DM or email. ","author_name":"Figuring It Out","author_url":"http:\/\/howwelllive.libsyn.com","html":"