{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"The 4 Survival Responses Hiding Inside Your ADHD featuring Jenna Free","description":"Jenna Free is a counselor who specializes in ADHD, and she doesn't teach it from a textbook, she lives it, having been diagnosed herself at 32. Her work zeroes in on the piece she says the field keeps missing: dysregulation. Through her ADHD regulation groups and her training for mental health professionals, she teaches a method built around regulating the nervous system, thoughts, and behaviors, and she's put it all into her bestselling book The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation, a Toronto Star and Globe and Mail bestseller. The core idea here reframes almost everything men think they know about ADHD. Jenna argues that most of what gets labeled ADHD is actually an ADHD brain stuck in chronic fight or flight, and that it's fixable. She and Larry get into what's happening in the brain during dysregulation, the four survival responses, why potential keeps you stuck, and how simply refusing to fight with reality can change your whole day. If you or your kids have ever felt like putting on socks is a full body assignment, this one explains why.   Timeline Summary [1:58] \u2013 Getting diagnosed at 32 and finally making sense to herself [3:28] \u2013 Four careers by 35, from marketing to modeling in South Africa to teaching [9:14] \u2013 Two kids under a year and a half apart and max fight or flight [9:57] \u2013 Your mess becomes your message [10:16] \u2013 The full bio: the ADHD regulation method and a bestselling book [13:16] \u2013 What's actually happening in an ADHD brain stuck in fight or flight [14:43] \u2013 Why the fight or flight symptom list looks almost identical to the ADHD one [15:49] \u2013 The socks story and how different life feels once you're regulated [18:58] \u2013 Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, and how each one shows up [20:39] \u2013 Why your body can't tell a to-do list from a bear [22:01] \u2013 Which survival response dominates, and whether gender or age matters [24:41] \u2013 Why this work is hard for kids and lands better with bought-in adults [25:28] \u2013 Hyperactive, inattentive, and combination types across the lifespan [26:28] \u2013 Where regulation actually starts, and why buy-in comes first [27:43] \u2013 Putting on your dysregulation goggles to see symptoms differently [29:26] \u2013 Giving yourself permission to regulate when survival mode resists it [32:44] \u2013 Physical regulation first: slowing down to signal safety to the body [35:14] \u2013 Potential versus reality and the shoulds that pull you back into panic [36:50] \u2013 The spilled box of gems and dropping the fight with reality in five seconds [38:27] \u2013 Larry's disputed parking charge and staying calm while everyone else panicked [43:12] \u2013 Do people with ADHD have less energy, or is it pouring onto the floor? [45:13] \u2013 Why Jenna's calming tone regulates her own body in real time [48:14] \u2013 How fawning and people pleasing trace back to the amygdala   5 Key Takeaways It's Often Fight or Flight, Not Just ADHD \u2014 Many of the symptoms people write off as permanent ADHD traits, the overwhelm, paralysis, and procrastination, are actually a nervous system stuck in survival mode. That part is treatable. Your Body Can't Tell a To-Do List From a Bear \u2014 Under chronic stress, blood flow leaves the prefrontal cortex so you can fight or run, which is exactly why you can't think clearly when you sit down to work. Buy-In Comes Before Any Technique \u2014 Regulation work is uncomfortable because your system thinks its old patterns are keeping you alive. You have to genuinely want the change to push through the resistance. Start by Physically Slowing Down \u2014 Walking instead of rushing, dropping your shoulders, and typing at a reasonable pace all signal safety to the body. Small shifts over time retrain the nervous system far better than fast, intense change. Stop Fighting With Reality \u2014 Shoulds, what-ifs, and "this shshouldn't have happened" throw you straight back into panic. Naming what is real and asking "now what" is one of the fastest ways to calm the system down.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/1512 Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/nfl   Enjoyed This Episode? If Jenna's reframing of dysregulation gave you a new way to understand your own brain or your kid's, put one piece of it to work. Catch yourself the next time you're rushing and physically slow down, and notice how quickly your body follows. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations. This episode discusses ADHD, disordered eating, and mental health. If any of it resonates personally, consider reaching out to a licensed professional who can offer support tailored to you. ","author_name":"The Dad Edge Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/podcast\/","html":"