{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Overcoming The Shame of Relapse in Addiction Recovery","description":"Have you ever felt like the shame after a relapse was worse than the relapse itself?   Today I sat down with Tyler Patrick, a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-founder of Therapy Brothers, who has been in his own recovery for nearly 20 years.   In this episode, you\u2019ll learn:  How the trauma tree shows the real roots behind relapse and acting out The racetrack of shame and why beating yourself up keeps you stuck The three Cs of shame resilience and A simple self-compassion practice you can use today   Don\u2019t forget to check the show notes for a podcast summary with links to resources we mention and a list of action steps that will improve the quality of your sobriety.   So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Tyler.   SHOW NOTES:   Guest Website: https:\/\/www.therapybrothers.org\/ \ud83d\udc4a\ud83c\udffcNeed help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: \ud83c\udf81Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https:\/\/www.soberlifeschool.com \u260e\ufe0fPrivate Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https:\/\/www.makesobrietystick.com Subscribe So You Don\u2019t Miss New Episodes!   Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE.  You can also watch the interview on YouTube: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1           Apple: https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521 Spotify: https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast YouTube Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Tyler Patrick and today's topic 01:00 What you'll learn by the end of this episode 01:30 Tyler's background as a licensed therapist since 2005 02:00 Tyler opens up about his own recovery journey 03:00 Why shame can be more destructive than addiction itself 05:00 The "trauma tree": how core beliefs drive relapse 07:00 The racetrack of shame explained 12:00 The "case of the fuck its" and the "what the hell effect" 17:00 Why self-trust matters more than willpower 18:30 C1: Using context to normalize your struggle 21:00 C2: Courage: telling your story for the first time 27:00 The four qualities of a safe person to confide in 33:00 C3: Compassion and the Kristin Neff method 36:00 Why repetition rewires your nervous system 41:00 Tyler's real-life story of catching a trigger before church 46:00 The law of 51%: why you don't need to be perfect 50:00 Tyler's closing word of hope for newcomers 51:00 Where to find Tyler and Therapy Brothers   ","author_name":"Sobriety: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/odaatchat.com","html":"