{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Raising Daughters Who Hold Themselves to a Standard featuring Sterling Seizert","description":"Sterling Seizert spent his career as a US Army Special Forces Green Beret, serving as a senior communications and intelligence sergeant in 10th Special Forces Group and as a Special Operations liaison at the US Embassy in Nigeria. When he transitioned out, he carried the same discipline into entrepreneurship, and today he's the founder of Patriot Capital and Legends Lodge, overseeing eight self storage facilities worth over 58 million dollars and serving 3,100 clients. He's also the author of the new book Buy Your Freedom. This one goes deeper than either man expected. Sterling opens with a harrowing 2013 combat story, then he and Larry get into how training builds calm under pressure, servant leadership in marriage, raising daughters who hold themselves to a standard, and why honesty in a home should be celebrated rather than punished. If you want a masterclass in staying grounded when the stakes are high, this is it.   Timeline Summary [2:54] \u2013 The 2013 mission in northwest Africa and the firefight that changed everything [6:11] \u2013 Holding a soldier's heart and being told to keep the rhythm [8:11] \u2013 Did training take over, or was there disbelief in the moment? [10:26] \u2013 How repetition inoculates you to the sights, sounds, and smells of the battlefield [12:32] \u2013 Advice for the average man facing his own hard situation [14:25] \u2013 Why action creates clarity and keeps you out of rumination [15:11] \u2013 The full bio: Green Beret, Nigeria, and 58 million in self storage [17:36] \u2013 Growing up in small-town Wisconsin and a colder father [20:59] \u2013 The deep question: would he still eat Taco Bell knowing what he knows? [22:21] \u2013 Did quitting ever cross his mind in selection? It never did [26:07] \u2013 The frozen ambush in North Carolina and putting suffering in perspective [30:35] \u2013 Getting recycled through small unit tactics and choosing to be an asset [32:09] \u2013 The first responder divorce rate and how he and Rebecca stayed tight [32:36] \u2013 Marriage as service, and why keeping score never works [35:09] \u2013 Serving your wife without becoming the nice guy or the domineering man [38:33] \u2013 Servant leadership, apologizing, and holding a standard at the same time [39:03] \u2013 Larry and Sterling compare their household standards for conflict [41:07] \u2013 The one question that disarms almost any argument with someone close [43:44] \u2013 The plan for when his daughters start dating, sniper school included [45:10] \u2013 Raising strong daughters to look for ambition and a standard [48:14] \u2013 What this generation of young men is missing, from social media to porn [52:03] \u2013 Cultivating real connection with daughters in the teenage years [54:13] \u2013 The one hard rule he'll raise his voice over, and why honesty gets celebrated [57:29] \u2013 The two books that changed his life, plus his own new release   5 Key Takeaways Action Creates Clarity \u2014 When you're facing something hard, assess what needs to get done and execute in order. Movement keeps you out of the rumination loop and steadily reveals the next right step. Marriage Is Service, Not Score \u2014 Approach your marriage as the person there to serve, and assume your spouse will meet you halfway. Keeping score guarantees you'll always find a way to justify why you're winning. Serve Without Being a Doormat \u2014 Servant leadership isn't groveling and it isn't domineering. Hold a real standard for how you're treated, model that same standard yourself, and pick the battles that actually matter. Assume the Best Interest \u2014 In conflict with someone close, ask whether they truly lack your family's best interest at heart. Nine times out of ten they don't, which turns the fight into the two of you against the problem. Celebrate Honesty, Don't Punish It \u2014 Make ownership safe. When kids know honesty is welcomed rather than met with punishment, you can address the actual problem instead of untangling a lie on top of it.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/1510 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive (July 31, 8am central): https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/goals Buy Your Freedom by Sterling Seizert: https:\/\/a.co\/d\/0fwMJAzB   Enjoyed This Episode? If Sterling's line about action creating clarity gave you something to hold onto, put it to work this week. Send this episode to a man who's stuck ruminating instead of moving, and take one honest look at the standards you're actually modeling at home. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations. ","author_name":"The Dad Edge Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/podcast\/","html":"