{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"357. The Secret To Supporting Your People In The Most Awesome Way","description":"I think a lot about how I can best show up and be there for my people.  My family and closest friends\u2026 my inner circle.  I want to be very intentional about how I support them. I realized something recently that I hadn\u2019t pin pointed in this way before. And one of the greatest gifts you can give them isn\u2019t advice\u2026 It isn\u2019t solving all of their problems\u2026 It\u2019s belief. I think that\u2019s what every single person is really looking for. Someone who believes in them. Someone who\u2019s in their corner. Someone who genuinely wants to see them win. Today we are talking about believing in your people sometimes even more than they believe in themselves. I honestly think that\u2019s what so many people are longing for. To know someone sees something in them they can\u2019t quite see yet. Sometimes people just need to borrow someone else\u2019s belief until they build their own confidence. It looks like this\u2026 someone you love says \u201cI have a huge presentation tomorrow.\u201d Instead of\u2026 \u201cOh man\u2026 that\u2019s stressful.\u201d Smile and say\u2026 \u201cGood thing you\u2019re one of the best presenters I know.\u201d It\u2019s belief in what they are doing and what they care about.  By shifting our responses to belief statements, I think we can completely change how people feel after spending time with us. This is the reframe\u2026 when you\u2019re in a situation with someone you love and you\u2019re responding to what they have doing on or what they told you about\u2026 tell yourself\u2026 how can I show how much I believe in them? I think 99% of the time that\u2019s what they actually need and want to hear. Let\u2019s look at some examples. **Starting a business They say: \u201cI\u2019ve been thinking about starting my own business.\u201d Standard response: \u201cJust be careful\u2026 most businesses fail.\u201d Your belief statement: \u201cIf anyone can figure this out, it\u2019s you. I know it will work because you don\u2019t stop until things do." **Child Before A Big Game They say: \u201cI\u2019m nervous about my game.\u201d Standard response: \u201cDon\u2019t be nervous.\u201d Your belief statement: \u201cGood thing you\u2019re the kind of person who plays their best when it matters. I can\u2019t wait to watch you.\u201d **Tough Day At Work They say: \u201cI don\u2019t know if I\u2019m doing a good job.\u201d Standard response: \u201cI\u2019m sure you\u2019re fine.\u201d Your belief statement: \u201cI\u2019ve watched you solve harder problems than this. I have complete confidence that you\u2019ll figure this out too.\u201d **Trying Something New They say: \u201cI\u2019ve never done anything like this before.\u201d Standard response: \u201cWell\u2026 just try your best.\u201d Your belief statement: \u201cEvery expert was once doing something for the first time. I think you\u2019re going to surprise yourself.\u201d **Your Spouse Feeling Overwhelmed They say: \u201cI don\u2019t know how I\u2019m going to get everything done.\u201d Standard response: \u201cYeah\u2026 you\u2019ve got a lot on your plate.\u201d Your belief statement: \u201cI know it feels like a lot, but you\u2019re one of the most capable people I know. And we\u2019re a team\u2014we\u2019ll figure it out together.\u201d Let\u2019s lean into these 4 types of belief statements 1. Believe in their ability \u201cYou\u2019ve got this.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re ready.\u201d \u201cI trust you.\u201d \u201cYou can handle this.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re really good at this.\u201d 2. Believe in their character \u201cYou\u2019re incredibly resilient.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re wiser than you think.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re a great leader.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re one of the kindest people I know.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re built for hard things.\u201d 3. Believe in their future \u201cI can\u2019t wait to see what you do.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re just getting started.\u201d \u201cThis is going to be part of your success story.\u201d \u201cYour future is bright.\u201d \u201cBig things are ahead.\u201d 4. Believe in them when they can\u2019t \u201cI\u2019ll believe in you until you believe in yourself.\u201d \u201cI see something special in you.\u201d \u201cI wish you could see yourself through my eyes.\u201d \u201cDon\u2019t count yourself out.\u201d \u201cI haven\u2019t lost confidence in you for one second.\u201d Imagine if the people in your life consistently heard responses like these. Imagine how your spouse would walk into work. How your kids would walk into school. How your friends would chase bigger dreams. How much more courage they would have simply because they know there\u2019s someone in their corner who believes in them. You can\u2019t control every outcome for the people you love. But you can control what they hear from you. And maybe the greatest gift you can give someone isn\u2019t having all the answers\u2026 Maybe it\u2019s helping them believe they already have what it takes. The reframe\u2026 Before you respond to someone\u2026 Pause for just one second and ask yourself: \u201cWhat response would make this person feel more capable?\u201d Not more dependent. Not just more comfortable. More capable. Then respond from that place. Because the best supporters don\u2019t just make people feel better. They make people become better. And maybe that\u2019s one of the greatest gifts we can ever give the people we love. 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