{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Episode 638: Find Your No!","description":"Why is it so hard to say "no" even when we know we should? Most of us believe we'd stand up for our values in difficult moments, yet research shows we often choose compliance over conviction. In this episode, we'll explore the fascinating psychology behind why we say yes when we mean no, why authority and social pressure are so powerful, and how understanding your values can help you make decisions you'll be proud of long after the moment has passed. QUOTES FROM DR. BRAY "In every workplace, home, and classroom, defiance is the exception and obedience is the rule. But it doesn't have to be that way." "That discomfort is the key to our power to defy. It shows up as tension in the back of your neck, a headache, a stomach cramp, general uneasiness. It's an internal compass guiding us back to our values." "Learning to say no isn't just about courage. It's about preparation."   Sunita Sah, DEFY, The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes Sunita Sah, Psychology Today, January\/February 2025 Issue If you need to speak with someone about sexual harassment, abuse, or any related topic, please call 1-800-656-HOPE or Text Hope to 64673.  This is a free service operated in the US by RAINN to provide hope and healing. ","author_name":"The Dr CK Bray Show","author_url":"http:\/\/adaptioninstitute.com","html":"