{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"436. Stop Waiting for "The One": How Fear Is Keeping You Single","description":"Stop Waiting for "The One": How Fear Is Keeping You Single Are you waiting for certainty before you're willing to put yourself out there? Do you want to get married someday, but fear rejection, making the wrong choice, getting hurt, or simply never finding the right person? In this episode of the Rob Skinner Podcast, Rob tackles one of the greatest obstacles facing Christian singles today: fear. After teaching a lesson on dating to approximately 200 young adults and married Christians in Boston, Rob noticed a common theme. Many people aren't struggling because they don't want to get married or because they never meet anyone. They're struggling because they're afraid to take the first step. Rob explains why God's answer to uncertainty isn't certainty\u2014it's faith. Drawing from Ecclesiastes 11:6 and other biblical principles, Rob challenges singles to "sow their seed," take healthy relational risks, become the kind of person they hope to marry, and trust God with the outcome. In this episode, you'll discover: \u2022 Why fear may be a bigger dating obstacle than lack of opportunity \u2022 Why God doesn't ask you to know the future before taking action \u2022 The biblical principle of "sowing your seed" \u2022 Why a first date doesn't need to feel like a marriage proposal \u2022 How to become the kind of person you hope to marry \u2022 Why choosing someone who strengthens your faith matters \u2022 Rob's thoughts on Christian online dating \u2022 How Rob prayed for nine months before meeting Pam \u2022 Why taking care of yourself physically and emotionally matters \u2022 How to date without putting unnecessary pressure on every interaction \u2022 Why purity protects trust and strengthens your future marriage \u2022 Why friendship is more important than chemistry alone \u2022 How to replace the search for certainty with courage Rob also shares the story of his own journey toward marriage. After a relationship he thought would lead to marriage ended, he spent months praying and surrendering his future to God. Nine months later, Pam flew into Berkeley from Cairo, Egypt\u2014and a little over a year later, they were married. The message is simple: Stop asking God for certainty. Start asking Him for courage. Walk forward. Trust Him. Sow your seed. Become someone worth marrying. Protect your purity. Build friendships. Pray faithfully. Then leave tomorrow where it has always belonged\u2014in the hands of God. Learn more about Rob, his books, and the Rob Skinner Podcast at RobSkinner.com. Rob's goal is to inspire you to live a no-regrets life, make this life count, and multiply disciples, leaders, and churches. ","author_name":"The Rob Skinner Podcast: Helping You Make This Life Count","author_url":"https:\/\/robskinner.com\/","html":"