{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Right on Time for Wedding Season: Meet the \u201cWives-In-Law\u201d Who Chose Friendship Over Family Drama","description":" Right on time for wedding season\u2014when blended families everywhere are blending for weddings, graduations, vacations, and all of life\u2019s big special occasions\u2014comes a story that just might inspire everybody to behave a little better at the family table. LOL. Meet Andrea and Heidi: two New Jersey women, moms, grandmothers, successful professionals and small business owners who share something most women don\u2019t. They both married the same man. Not at the same time, people. LOL. Heidi married Dan when they were young. They had two daughters and jumped headfirst into parenthood together. Eventually, their marriage ended. The marriage didn\u2019t last\u2014but the family they created did. Heidi rebuilt her life, working as a personal trainer, helping in her family\u2019s excavation business, and doing whatever it took to keep moving forward. Then she met Bob\u2014a kind man who owned a pizza place and, very importantly, made killer pizza. Heidi and Bob have now been happily married for 20 years and run a small business together. Andrea also married young and had two daughters. Somehow, while raising a nursing baby and a toddler, she made it through law school and went on to become a lawyer and business advisor. Because apparently, in Andrea\u2019s family, moms just figured things out. Years later, Andrea met Dan on Match.com\u2014proving that sometimes it takes an international dating site to introduce you to the love of your life who lives just 11 miles away. LOL. Andrea and Dan have now been together nearly 20 years, blending their families and building a life centered around their children and five grandchildren. Andrea is Gigi. Heidi is Grammy. And together, they are... Wives-In-Law. And That\u2019s Where This Story Gets Really Good Andrea and Heidi could have chosen tension, competition, resentment\u2014or simply kept their distance. Instead, they chose to try. The friendship didn\u2019t happen overnight. It grew through patience, curiosity, awkward moments, misunderstandings, forgiveness, and a shared commitment to making life better\u2014not harder\u2014for the people they loved. At first, they made the effort because they both adored their children and wanted to put them first. But something unexpected happened along the way. They discovered they actually liked each other! Not tolerated each other. Not politely smiled through family events. Genuinely liked each other. Today they share grandchildren, family celebrations, vacations, Broadway shows, late-night phone calls\u2014and yes, even bacon festivals! Their new book, Wives-In-Law, tells the wonderfully imperfect true story of what can happen when people choose respect over resentment, curiosity over competition, and connection over pride. \u201cHi, I Really Have to Pee\u201d One of the things I loved most about my conversation with Andrea and Heidi was their honesty. Heidi will tell you straight out: the divorce was not friendly. And when she first met Andrea, she was intimidated. There had been another relationship in Dan\u2019s life before Andrea that hadn\u2019t exactly brought out the best in Heidi, so naturally she wondered: \u201cOh boy...what\u2019s this one going to be like?\u201d Then Andrea showed up at Heidi\u2019s house for the first time and basically said: \u201cHi, I really have to pee.\u201d LOL. Apparently, nothing breaks the ice like skipping the formalities and asking where the bathroom is. Andrea remembers coming out of the bathroom to find Heidi waiting with a cold bottle of water and a smile. And somehow, in those little human moments, the walls started coming down. Over time, they discovered something we should all probably remember more often: The stories we make up in our heads about other people are not always true. Heidi assumed Andrea was confident and had it all together. Then she discovered Andrea had insecurities too. Heidi remembers admitting that it sometimes took her two hours to get dressed while throwing clothes all over the room. Andrea\u2019s response? \u201cOh, me too.\u201d That\u2019s the thing about women. Sometimes we\u2019re intimidated by another woman because we assume she has everything figured out\u2014until we get to know her and realize she\u2019s standing in front of her closet throwing clothes on the floor too. They Don\u2019t Pretend It\u2019s Perfect Here\u2019s what else I loved about their story: they don\u2019t pretend their friendship is perfect. They still misunderstand each other. They get annoyed. They\u2019ve had arguments. The difference is\u2014they talk about it. They don\u2019t automatically leave each other in the dust when feelings get hurt. They ask questions and work through things. As Andrea said during our conversation: Relationships are worth the effort. That\u2019s a message that goes way beyond blended families. How many relationships might have turned out differently if we had asked one more question before making an assumption? How many people have we misunderstood because we were reacting to a story in our own head instead of finding out what was actually true? From \u201cEx-Husband\u201d to \u201cFirst Husband\u201d Heidi  no longer refers to Dan as her ex-husband. She calls him her first husband. She says it feels softer. Love that. And perhaps one of the greatest unexpected gifts of her friendship with Andrea is that Heidi can now genuinely enjoy having Dan in her life again. She can watch him be Grandpa to their grandsons. They can remember the good times without reopening the painful ones. Think about what a gift that is\u2014not only to Heidi and Dan, but to their daughters and grandchildren. And the ripple effect has grown. Their daughters have become friends too. The grandchildren are growing up as friends, not just relatives. And with another family wedding on the horizon, this blended family will once again be showing up together. Not because it all happened by accident. Because somebody had to go first. Somebody had to choose curiosity over assumptions. Somebody had to keep showing up. And eventually, everybody won. Sometimes Tuscany Isn\u2019t Really the Dream A few years ago, Andrea realized something every grandparent understands: Childhood moves fast. Six weeks doesn\u2019t sound like a long time until you\u2019re measuring it in missing teeth, longer legs, soccer goals, and grandchildren who somehow look older every time you see them. Andrea had always imagined a magical family compound somewhere wonderful. Maybe Tuscany. But after a three-year house search, she and Dan found a home connected to her daughter\u2019s neighborhood by a paved, almost fairy-tale-like walking path. Now the grandchildren can bike, scooter, or walk over to Gigi\u2019s house whenever they want. Watching her five grandchildren grow up together and seeing the blended family become truly connected made Andrea realize something. Tuscany was never really the dream. This was.   DEBSERVATION We spend a lot of time assuming relationships have to follow a certain script. Ex-wife. New wife. Stepchildren. Bonus children. His family. Her family. Their family. But what happens when people decide that labels matter less than love? Andrea and Heidi threw out the script. They put their children first. They chose respect over resentment. They gave each other grace. They talked through misunderstandings instead of walking away. And along the way, they created a freundship neither of them expected. Sometimes the person you think is going to complicate your life turns out to be one of the people who enriches it most. And sometimes everybody wins because somebody was willing to go first. A Book Dedication That Says It All The dedication in Wives-In-Law beautifully sums up the heart of this whole story: For our children and grandchildren. You gave us the reason to choose love over pride, connection over conflict, and family over labels. Meet Andrea Cataneo and Heidi Prudente on The Debbie Nigro Show.   Because the truth is, nobody tells you what happens after the divorce papers are signed. Nobody hands you a script when your family expands in unexpected directions. This conversation is proof that families don\u2019t have to be perfect\u2026 They just have to be willing to keep showing up for each other. Now THAT\u2019S Keeping the \u201cLIVE\u201d in Alive! 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