{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"How Your Old Solutions Became Your Current Problems featuring Gary John Bishop","description":"Gary John Bishop is the New York Times bestselling author behind Unfuk Yourself* and Stop Doing That Sht*, whose books have sold over 4.5 million copies and whose audiobooks alone have topped 2 million. Making his sixth appearance on the show, the Scottish philosopher and personal development author joins Larry to break down his newest book, Now What, and challenge the entire premise of self-help. This conversation gets into why chasing the next fix keeps you stuck, how your old solutions quietly become your current problems, and why self-invention beats self-improvement for good. If you're a dad who's done all the work, read all the books, and still catches himself asking why life feels the same, this one will reframe how you see time, identity, and being present with your kids.   Timeline Summary [1:02] \u2013 Gary returns for his sixth appearance and the "Larry and Gary Show" reunion [3:13] \u2013 The line that started it all: solving your life instead of living in it [5:23] \u2013 Why the book slapped Gary around as he wrote it and questioned everything he knew [6:38] \u2013 Realizing most of what we call fulfillment is actually just relief [8:03] \u2013 Now is not a time, now is a place, and now is eternal, but you're not [11:28] \u2013 How Gary scrapped a finished manuscript and rewrote the guts in 30 days [14:20] \u2013 The difference between having knowledge of something and truly knowing it [22:12] \u2013 How old solutions become current problems: work ethic turning into workaholism [27:03] \u2013 Larry on his son's graduation and why he felt joy instead of regret [29:52] \u2013 The meerkat in the cathedral and why context is your one true superpower [32:16] \u2013 Alan Watts on standing in a river with the past and future always here [36:13] \u2013 Self-invention over self-improvement and why the "self" isn't broken [41:20] \u2013 Declaring who you are as accomplished and letting it call you forward [48:00] \u2013 What to do when the people closest to you resist the new version of you [53:03] \u2013 Why we prefer the certainty of misery over the uncertainty of joy [1:00:26] \u2013 The simplest way to teach kids this thinking through better questions   5 Key Takeaways Stop Solving, Start Living \u2014 Most people spend their whole lives fixing the problem in front of their face, then wonder why relief never comes. A life you create still has problems, but they're the right ones. Old Solutions Become New Problems \u2014 The job, the relationship, the work ethic you built to fix an old pain often becomes the very thing troubling you now. Recognizing that pattern is how you stop repeating it. Context Is Your Superpower \u2014 You can't always change what's happening, but you can shift the context you hold it in. Mandela sat in the same cell for years and chose to experience it as a life of service. Self-Invention Beats Self-Improvement \u2014 You aren't a broken, fixed thing that needs better habits. Through language you can declare who you are right now and let that identity call new actions out of you. Teach Kids to Question, Not to Comply \u2014 Instead of correcting kids, ask them where they heard that, what they're making it mean, and what else it could mean. "Now what?" asked honestly and repeatedly shifts any story.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links \u2014 https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/1503 Join the Dad Edge Alliance \u2014 https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive \u2014 https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/goals Now What by Gary John Bishop \u2014 available wherever books are sold Gary John Bishop's website \u2014 https:\/\/garyjohnbishop.com Follow Gary John Bishop on Instagram \u2014 https:\/\/instagram.com\/garyjohnbishop Follow Gary John Bishop on TikTok \u2014 https:\/\/tiktok.com\/@garyjohnbishop    Enjoyed This Episode? If Gary's idea that "now is a place, not a time" cracked something open for you, don't let it stop at a listen. Send this episode to a dad who's done all the work and still feels stuck, and try asking your kids one of Gary's questions this week. If the show keeps delivering for you, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations. ","author_name":"The Dad Edge Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/thedadedge.com\/podcast\/","html":"