{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"We should be kissing each other, not fighting each other w\/ Emily Zawadzki","description":"Join us LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on YouTube for the watch party every Wednesday: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@birdsandbeesdontfck Emily Zawadzki (AKA Emily Zed) is a Canadian sex educator who specializes in supporting queer, kinky, and neurodivergent people navigating intimacy, relationships, and pleasure. She grew up in Kitchener-Waterloo, Ontario, where her formal sex education came from Catholic school abstinence lessons, graphic STI scare tactics, and a very cool mom who handed her an educational flap book about how babies are made. In this episode we talk about building a career in sex education, why gender-affirming care isn\u2019t just for trans people, and how gender expression can show up in something as simple as hair color. Emily shares what it was like growing up Catholic while questioning her sexuality, the pressure of stereotypes about what lesbians \u201cshould\u201d look like, and how discovering her wife\u2019s ADHD shifted her work toward supporting neurodivergent intimacy and sexuality. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/cw\/birdsandbeesdontfck &amp;nbsp;_________________________________________________ Where to find Emily: Instagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/emilyzedsexed Website: https:\/\/emilyzedsexed.com Emily's Webinar: https:\/\/www.emilyzedsexed.com\/neuroqueer-webinar Where to find Arielle: &amp;nbsp;Instagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/cw\/birdsandbeesdontfck Like jewelry that\u2019ll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https:\/\/lovecrave.com\/arielle Episode Cheat Sheet&amp;nbsp; 02:04 Purple hair babes, identity and gender expression 04:03 What gender-affirming care actually means 06:05 Why queer identities aren\u2019t \u201cnew\u201d 08:05 Emily\u2019s path to becoming a sex educator 11:22 Switching from social work to sexuality studies 14:00 Why casual conversations normalize sex education 18:06 Arielle\u2019s early sex curiosity and Dr. Ruth influence 22:00 Producing a sex education podcast for people who hate sex ed 26:00 Catholic school abstinence education and STI scare tactics 27:17 The \u201ccool mom\u201d who provided real sex education 30:20 Why better sex education leads to later sexual activity 33:15 Why showing graphic STI photos to teens is harmful 36:40 Coming out as queer after growing up Catholic 38:50 Unlearning stereotypes about what lesbians \u201cshould\u201d look like 41:20 Why labels can be empowering or limiting 45:30 Biphobia and policing identity inside queer communities 50:00 Feminism, patriarchy, and why hating men isn\u2019t the solution 55:05 Discovering ADHD in Emily\u2019s relationship 56:20 Neurodivergence, sensory play, and sexual arousal 58:12 Why partners need to do their own sex education work 59:00 Where to find Emily and upcoming neuroqueer intimacy webinar ","author_name":"Birds And Bees Don't Fck","author_url":"https:\/\/instagram.com\/birdsandbeesdontfck","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/41922800\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/item\/41922800"}