{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Episode 427 \u2013 Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You're Just Trying to Help","description":"What happens when \u201chelp\u201d from your spouse starts to feel more like criticism? In this episode, I talk about why even well-intentioned advice can feel like an attack when it isn\u2019t invited first, especially in conversations about sex and intimacy. I walk through how unsolicited feedback triggers defensiveness in our nervous systems, why both higher-desire and lower-desire spouses fall into this pattern, and how asking for consent before sharing can completely change the conversation. We\u2019ll also talk about practical ways to create emotional safety, move from defensiveness to curiosity, and build a marriage where both people actually feel heard. Sometimes the smallest shift, simply asking \u201cCan I?\u201d, can open the door to the kind of connection you\u2019ve been wanting all along. ","author_name":"Sex for Saints","author_url":"http:\/\/amandalouder.com","html":"