{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"155 [S11 E10] Unravelling: masking, personality adaptation and meeting my real self","description":"Toni Borneo was formally recognised as autistic two years ago, at age 42 - something that has saved and completely changed her life. For her, the process of unmasking uncovered complex, long term mental and emotional health issues. And more recently she realised that she has developmental trauma that has led to her having a personality disorder.  Toni has spent her working life in health policy advocacy, first for a mental health charity, and now for a health trade union. She lives in Guildford in the UK, where she is currently discovering her unexplored creativity, building up her physical health, and enjoying going to local meet-ups for autistic adults. In our conversation Toni shares her experiences and knowledge of developmental trauma and personality disorder in autistic people \u2013 something that is heavily stigmatised and misunderstood in the autistic community, and that she suspects is actually very common \u2013 and the things that are helping her heal. Squarepeg is a podcast in which I talk to other late identified autistic women and nonbinary people about their lives, their autism journeys, and what they\u2019ve learned along the way. I\u2019m Amy Richards, and I was diagnosed autistic in 2016, when I was 37. I\u2019ve been sharing my conversations with other autistic adults since 2020. I hope you'll find these conversations inspiring and thought provoking, and that they\u2019ll help you feel more connected to a worldwide community of people with similar experiences.   \u27a1\ufe0fLISTEN AD-FREE WHEN YOU BECOME A PATREON SUPPORTER https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/squarepegpodcast    EPISODE LINKS: Autistic at 40 podcast: https:\/\/tr.ee\/XD3CoFXehj  Toni\u2019s Instagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/autistic_at_40\/    If you'd like to connect with me, get in touch or follow Squarepeg, you can find me on: Website: https:\/\/squarepeg.community\/  Patreon: https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/squarepegpodcast  Instagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/squarepeg.community\/ Facebook: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/squarepegautism\/  THANK YOU TO MY PATRONS!   A HUGE thank you to my amazing patrons, who support my work on the podcast:   Abi Hunter, Alex, Alex Lee, Alice Kemp, A-M, Amy Adler, Anika Lacerte, Annette, Annie, Anya Nebl, Aubrey Brand, B Martinez, Barbara, Basia, Becca Lee, Becky Beasley, Ben Davies, Beth Kelly Herbert, Bobbi Sue, Caprice, Carly, Caroline, Cat Preston, C M, Claire Gerard, Corinne Cariad, Corrine L. McDermid, Dana, Dana Bradley, Danielle Warby, Danielle Wrench, Daphna Epstein, Deanna M. Counts Goldy, Deidre, Dennis McNulty,, Eleanor Goulding, Em, Emma Franks, Erica Kenworthy, Erin Mazow, Evgeniia Pupysheva, Ewan McNeill, Frederike, Galina, George Cole, H.B, Hannah Breslin, Heather Peake, Helen Anne Hooker, Helen Crosby, Helen Delaney, Holly Knight-Smith, India, Ingrid, Jackie Allen, Jane, Janice, Jess Dwyer, Julie, Julie Goldberg, Karen, Karin Parker, KatF, Kate, Kathryn, Katharine Richards, Katherine Meizel, Katie, Ken K, Laura, Laura, Laurin Aman, Lilli Simmons, Lisa, Lisa Joy Powley, Lisa Williams, Liz, Liz P, Lula Cork, Maggie Dodd, Mandy Allen, Marjory Webber, Meg c, Melissa Shaw, Meredith L. Freyre, Mindy Wigzell, Monica Toohey, N, NC, Nicola Neil, Rebecca, Rebecca Biegel, Rebecca Miller, Sadie Slater, Samantha, Sandra Carey, Sandra Chapman, Sandra Rensman, Sandy Klarsten, Sandy Ladkin, Sarah Jeffrey, Sarah LW, Sarah Musgrave, Sarah Raine, Sarah Whitehead, Shelia Smith, Siobhan, Sophie King, Talia's Nature,Tris, Vicki Temple, Victoria Jeffrey and Zans McLachlan.   If you\u2019re enjoying the Squarepeg podcast and would like to help me carry on making new episodes, you can become a member of the Squarepeg community on Patreon from \u00a33 per month: https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/squarepegpodcast  ","author_name":"The Squarepeg Podcast","author_url":"https:\/\/squarepeg.community\/podcast\/","html":"