{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"222: How Letting Go of Your Standards Built a Life Full of Disappointment","description":"Disappointment is not a character flaw. It is your values speaking. It is the part of you that knows what you deserve registering \u2014 honestly and accurately \u2014 that you are not receiving it. And yet most of us have spent years being made to feel that our disappointment was the problem. That needing something to be different made us difficult. Sensitive. Too much. In this episode we untangle the difference between expectations and standards \u2014 and why clinging to expectations while quietly letting go of your standards is exactly how a woman ends up angry, depleted, and unsure how she got there. We talk about what disappointment feels like in the body, how unexpressed disappointment becomes resentment and resentment becomes anger, and why the anger that finally surfaces is not instability \u2014 it is evidence. Every unmet standard, every swallowed need, every time you adjusted yourself for someone who wasn't adjusting at all. We also talk about what healthy looks like. How to name disappointment before it becomes anger. How to know what is yours to own and what is yours to address. And how to move through anger without either performing it or sending it back underground. You were not too much. You were told you were too much by someone who didn't have enough to give you. There is a difference. And this episode is about learning to tell them apart. ","author_name":"SayTheThings's podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/saythethings.libsyn.com\/website","html":"