{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"234: Resisting the Urge to Contact Your (Ex) Affair Partner","description":"What do you do when you\u2019ve decided you don\u2019t want to continue your affair, but you still desperately want to contact your affair partner?         So many people assume that if they truly wanted the relationship to end, they wouldn\u2019t feel the urge to reach out. But what if those urges don\u2019t mean you made the wrong decision at all?           In this episode, I talk about why learning how to tolerate the urge to contact your affair partner is very different from resisting or fighting the urge.         I explain why urges to reconnect are often the result of habit, emotional conditioning, and the brain\u2019s desire for familiar rewards, rather than proof that you should restart the relationship. I also walk you through why it\u2019s essential to make a clear decision about whether you actually want the relationship to end before trying to cut off contact.         You\u2019ll learn how to contact your affair partner less impulsively by becoming more aware of the physical sensations that accompany urges, rather than immediately reacting to them. This episode will help you understand how to allow difficult emotions without acting on them, why urges lose power when you stop resisting them, and how practicing this skill can give you more freedom, self-trust, and clarity in your decisions.        Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https:\/\/www.mariemurphyphd.com\/234   If you want my personalized attention and support, we can work together one-on-one. Find out more here: https:\/\/www.mariemurphyphd.com\/one-on-one ","author_name":"Your Secret Is Safe With Me","author_url":"https:\/\/www.mariemurphyphd.com\/podcast","html":"