{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"245. Money Fights, Money Stories, and Better Couple Communication","description":"On this episode of CFO at Home, Vince talks with Raffi Bilek, a marriage counselor and author of The Couples Communication Handbook:The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted. Vince and Ravi discuss why money is a top source of marital conflict and why financial disagreements are often a symptom of deeper issues like anxiety, resentment, or control. Raffi explains his process for helping couples move through conflict by slowing down, taking turns, identifying underlying feelings, practicing empathy, and exploring each partner\u00b7s \u00b7money story,\u00b7 so they can stay connected even without full agreement. Vince and Ravi also discuss how solutions should address both partners\u00b7 needs (e.g., security vs. autonomy), and why separate finances can sometimes signal a lack of trust. For more on Raffi and The Couples Communication Handbook, go to thecommunicationbook.com 01:05 Money Fights&amp;nbsp; 02:11 Finances and Marital Disagreements 05:04 Money Is A Symptom 08:23 Getting Past Defensiveness 10:26 Money Stories Matter 12:49 From Empathy To Plan 15:46 Control And Trauma 19:15 Teaching The Skill 22:48 Joint Vs Separate Accounts 26:58 Parting Advice And Book 29:24 Where To Find Raffi 30:13 Final Thanks Key Links   The Couples Communication Handbook   BaltimoreTherapyCenter.com    Raffi Bilek (@the.marriage.mentor) \u2022 Instagram photos and videos   &amp;nbsp;   Raffi Bilek | LinkedIn   Baltimore Therapy Center - YouTube   Baltimore Therapy Center - Facebook   Contact the Host -&amp;nbsp;vince@thecfoathome.com Want to be a guest on CFO at Home? Send Vince a message on PodMatch, here:  https:\/\/www.podmatch.com\/hostdetailpreview\/1628643039567x840793309030672500 &amp;nbsp; ","author_name":"CFO at Home","author_url":"https:\/\/www.thecfoathome.com","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/41243470\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/content\/201808285"}