{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"ERP 529: Unspoken Relationship Contracts: Why You Feel Resentful and What to Do About It \u2014 An Interview with Elizabeth Webb","description":"Are you stuck in a cycle of giving too much\u2014or never quite feeling your needs are met\u2014in your relationships? So many of us find ourselves trapped in unspoken agreements, repeating old patterns of imbalance, and wondering why our closest connections leave us feeling depleted and resentful. It's all too easy to slip into roles and routines that quietly erode intimacy, joy, and our sense of self. In this episode, listeners will discover the underlying dynamics of these "relationship contracts" and how they silently shape the balance (or imbalance) in our partnerships and friendships. Through insightful discussion, practical examples, and actionable tools, the conversation explores how to raise awareness of hidden patterns, reclaim personal agency, and foster healthier, more reciprocal connections\u2014all while learning to have empowered conversations that turn resentment into collaboration and lasting growth. Elizabeth Webb is The Practical Priestess\u2122 and an expert in positive psychology and human behavior. For over two decades, she's helped top leaders, celebrities, and change-makers break free from life's shackles, make empowered choices, and live a life they're excited to wake up to. Elizabeth brings her signature wisdom and wit to her debut book, Made for Magic.   Episode Highlights 05:56 Spotting the early signs of relationship imbalance. 07:08 Resentment, overgiving, and the dynamics of reciprocity. 11:08 Lovability, self-worth, and patterns of giving and receiving. 16:11 Changing unhelpful contracts: Willingness, ability, and conscious relating. 21:20 Reflecting on past patterns: Awareness and co-creation. 25:59 Clarifying needs vs. preferences in relationship dynamics. 28:54 Strategies for addressing and rewriting unspoken agreements. 35:05 Understanding the root of complaints. 38:00 A roadmap for empowered communication and requests. 40:32 Building collaboration and navigating negotiation in relationships. 45:16 When to untether: Facing unmet needs and setting boundaries.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Reflect on your current or past relationships to notice any recurring patterns where you feel depleted or resentful due to an imbalance in giving and receiving. Ask yourself if your concern is a fundamental need or simply a preference before addressing it with your partner. Acknowledge the ways you have participated or co-created the current dynamic before approaching the other person. Choose a time when both parties are calm and receptive to discuss the issue, beginning by seeking consent for the conversation. Use neutral language to share your observations and feelings about the dynamic and avoid accusatory statements. Articulate exactly what you would like to change and how you would like it to look, so your partner understands what you need. Invite your partner to share their perspective or any adjustments they\u2019d need to fulfill the new agreement, fostering a sense of co-creation. Observe whether your partner is both willing and able to make the necessary changes; if not, consider what choices and boundaries may be needed for your well-being.   Mentioned Made for Magic (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Alison Armstrong ERP 056: Secrets To Sex Even When No One Is In The Mood With Alison Armstrong Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (free guide)   Connect with Elizabeth Webb Website: PositivelyElizabeth.com Instagram: instagram.com\/positivelyelizabeth   ","author_name":"Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide","author_url":"https:\/\/www.drjessicahiggins.com\/","html":"