{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Why Modern Dating Feels So Disconnected With Dr. D Ivan Young","description":"Have you ever come back from a date thinking, &quot;Where was the spark?&quot; Why is it that so many conversations feel like boring interviews instead of genuine connections? How can you move past surface-level banter to truly feel something? In Episode 441 of The Charisma Quotient, \u201cWhy Modern Dating Feels So Disconnected With Dr. D Ivan Young\u201d Kimmy dives deep into what it takes to spark emotional connection with her special guest, Dr. D Ivan Young\u2014a renowned emotional intelligence and human behavior expert.&amp;nbsp; Together, they unpack why so many dates lack the emotional pull we crave and how generational and cultural patterns can block our ability to share or even recognize feelings. They explore how empathy works, why being a &quot;people pleaser&quot; works against you, and the neuroscience behind empathy and attraction\u2014including how our brains react during meaningful conversations. Dr. Young also reveals the concept of &quot;weaponized empathy&quot; - how people (and even algorithms!) can manipulate our emotional triggers for their own purposes, and why understanding this is crucial for creating safer, more genuine relationships. Kimmy offers relatable stories and strategies for breaking out of defensive dating habits and cultivating emotional intimacy, rather than falling back into transactional chat or &quot;LinkedIn exchanges.&quot; You\u2019ll hear:   Why so many dates feel like interviews, not connections   The neuroscience behind fight-or-flight mode and its impact on dating conversations   The difference between being empathic, people pleasing, and genuinely connecting   How cultural and generational beliefs influence your emotional expression   Tangible skills to boost authentic conversation and emotional vulnerability on dates   &amp;nbsp; If you hate dating and find yourself in endless boring banter and disconnected dates, sign up for Kimmy\u2019s free private coaching call here to figure out how to help you make dating more fun and effective: https:\/\/www.kimmyseltzer.com\/breakthrough-session\/ &amp;nbsp; Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************\u2063 Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. \u2063 ************************************************\u2063 Would you like to connect with Kimmy?\u2063 Website:&amp;nbsp; https:\/\/kimmyseltzer.com\/\u2063 Chat: https:\/\/www.kimmyseltzer.com\/breakthrough-session\/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:&amp;nbsp; https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com &amp;nbsp; ","author_name":"Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love","author_url":"http:\/\/charismaquotient.libsyn.com\/website","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/40975615\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/ff1b86\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/item\/40975615"}