{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"4036 Where Every Word Counts","description":"Most of us grew up with the childhood chant: \u201cSticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.\u201d Let\u2019s be real\u2014sticks and stones might leave bruises you can see, but words leave scars you can\u2019t. They penetrate deeper, especially in marriage, where every word counts. Who would have thought that something so small could wound so deep? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https:\/\/createyournow.com It's unfortunate, but we all do it, especially in marriage. Maybe your husband owned up to a small slip-up. And in the big scheme of things, it wasn\u2019t a big deal, but it added to the mounting list of stress. So then, you are quick to defend rather than to love. All of a sudden, you become the enemy because of your attack on his character and not the action.  It can feel so good to let someone have it with your words, only to look back minutes or days later and discover that words do hurt more than you thought. Verbal attacks are easy to throw, but those words don\u2019t just hit and vanish; they linger. Words can poison intimacy, create distance, and erode trust. Yet, with intentional kindness, those same words can heal, uplift, and reconnect. Where are you on the spectrum of "sticks and stones"? If you want to love your spouse well, you must speak life into your marriage. The K.I.S.S. ~ Speak life! Here are three practical ways to speak life into your marriage, starting today: 1. Pause Before You Speak When you feel that rush to speak judgment or frustration, stop. Take a breath. Ask yourself: \u201cWhat am I really trying to say? Is it about the action or about my feelings? Am I attacking the behavior or the person?\u201d A short pause can save long-term damage. 2. Speak to the Action, Not the Character Focus your words on what happened, not who your spouse is because of what happened. Instead of \u201cOf course you did,\u201d say, \u201cI wish you would let me know ahead of time.\u201d Call out the action, not the person. This creates space for problem-solving without blame. 3. Use Words That Invite Connection Flip the switch from judgment to curiosity. Phrases like \u201cHelp me understand why this happened\u201d or \u201cI appreciate you telling me\u201d invite your spouse into a conversation, not a conflict. Compassionate words build bridges\u2014especially when the path is rocky. Marriage is a battlefield, not of weapons but words. Every harsh sentence, every careless phrase, chips away at the bond you share. But every kind, thoughtful word strengthens it. No one ever succeeded in marriage by throwing verbal stones. Choose words that build instead of break\u2014the ones you\u2019ll want remembered, not regretted. You\u2019ve got the power in your tongue, speak life where every word counts. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"   #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow #LoveAndMarriage \ud83d\udd14 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https:\/\/createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation  - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https:\/\/form.jotform.com\/62988215824163) \ud83d\ude4f  Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https:\/\/pray.com) \ud83c\udfa5  Create Your Now on YouTube (https:\/\/youtube.com\/createyournow) \ud83c\udfa7 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. \ud83c\udfb6  Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http:\/\/www.iheart.com\/show\/263-Create-Your-Now-Your-Best\/) \u270d\ufe0f  YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com  Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow Facebook www.facebook.com\/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com\/CreateYourNow   Cover Art by Jenny Hamson Photo by Canva.com   Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http:\/\/www.mandisaofficial.com Song ID: 68209 Song Title: Overcomer Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia Copyright \u00a9 2013 Meaux Mercy (BMI) Moody Producer Music (BMI) One Songs (ASCAP) Ariose Music (ASCAP) Universal Music -  Brentwood Benson Publ. (ASCAP) D Soul Music (ASCAP) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission. ","author_name":"Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo","author_url":"http:\/\/createyournow.com","html":"