{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"426 Addicted to Pain: Breaking the Cycle That\u2019s Blocking Your Success","description":"What if the biggest obstacle to your success isn\u2019t your skill set, your circumstances, or even your past \u2014 but your addiction to staying stuck? That\u2019s the central thread of my conversation with Peter Moulton, a 35-year recovery veteran, entrepreneur, and author of UP: A Journey of Intention, Focus, and Execution. Peter has spent nearly three decades coaching entrepreneurs and leaders, and what he\u2019s discovered cuts right through the noise: most of us don\u2019t fail because we lack information. We fail because we\u2019re unwilling to be seen. The Three-Year Prison Peter describes a pattern he calls the \u201cthree-year prison\u201d \u2014 the tendency for people to rise to their current level of competence, then repeat the same cycle over and over without ever breaking through. The culprit? Imposter syndrome. The fear that if we become truly brilliant and visible, we\u2019ll be exposed. So we self-sabotage. We stay small. We hide. In recovery, this shows up all the time. We know what we\u2019re supposed to do \u2014 pray, journal, go to meetings, do the work. But the moment we start feeling better, we stop. And then we wonder why we\u2019re vulnerable again. The Addiction to Pain Here\u2019s where Peter really got me: he doesn\u2019t believe people primarily avoid pain. He believes they get addicted to it. After years of generational trauma and learned dysfunction, suffering becomes familiar. Safe, even. And anything that might bring joy \u2014 visibility, success, connection \u2014 feels threatening. The healing, he says, isn\u2019t about digging endlessly into the \u201cwhy.\u201d It\u2019s about acknowledging reality, surrendering to it, and choosing to move anyway. The Ultradian Method: Work With Your Biology Based on research going back to 1953 by scientist Nathaniel Kleitman, our waking brains operate in 90-minute cycles \u2014 just like our sleep. Peter built his entire productivity system around this: 75 minutes of deep, singular-focus work followed by 15 minutes of complete disconnection. No phone. No screens. Touch grass. Breathe. His best clients do 3\u20134 sprints per day. Even two sprints \u2014 about 2.5 hours of focused work \u2014 consistently outperforms unfocused 8-hour days. Microsoft\u2019s own research confirms this: their employees averaged less than 3 hours of actual productive work per 8-hour day. Action Items From This Episode Try one 75-minute focus sprint tomorrow. One task. No phone. Then fully disconnect for 15 minutes. Ask yourself Peter\u2019s daily question: Who am I this morning \u2014 and who do I want to be by tonight? Identify the ONE activity that would move your most important goal forward every day. Let everything else wait. Notice if you\u2019re \u201cwound worshipping.\u201d Are you staying in the story instead of moving through it? Books & Resources Mentioned UP: A Journey of Intention, Focus, and Execution \u2014 Peter Moulton  Unwinding Anxiety \u2014 Dr. Judson Brewer Connect with Peter: peter@1691inc.com Guest website: ultradianpartners.com Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days \u2013 With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https:\/\/www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https:\/\/www.makesobrietystick.com Subscribe So You Don\u2019t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode onApple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube.       Apple: https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521 Spotify: https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpBAmazon Music: https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast ","author_name":"Sobriety: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/odaatchat.com","html":"