{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"EFR 934: Unsingle - How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts with Amy Chan","description":"This episode is brought to you by Audible, Ancient + Brave, Strong Coffee Company and Fatty15. Today we welcome relationship expert Amy Chan to break down the science of heartbreak, attachment patterns, and modern dating, revealing why breakups feel like addiction withdrawal and how high-performers often sabotage their healing by avoiding emotions instead of processing them. You\u2019ll learn how to stop ruminating on your ex, rebuild your identity after a breakup, and create new neural pathways through intentional action, as well as why strategies like \u201cstaying friends\u201d or \u201cwinning the breakup\u201d often backfire. Amy also shares her dating funnel framework, helping listeners understand how to move from casual dating to committed relationships while avoiding common pitfalls like confusing preferences with dealbreakers. This conversation is a powerful guide for anyone looking to move on faster, date smarter, and build healthier, more conscious relationships. Follow Amy @missamychan Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- 00:00 \u2013 Why You Can\u2019t Skip the Pain of a Breakup 00:28 \u2013 Feeling vs Avoiding Emotions 00:58 \u2013 What Happens When You Suppress Pain 01:26 \u2013 Meet Amy Chan 01:51 \u2013 The Problem with Forcing Forgiveness 02:47 \u2013 The Science of Breakup Withdrawal 04:15 \u2013 Why Men Struggle More After Breakups 05:26 \u2013 Rebound Relationships Explained 06:30 \u2013 How Long It Really Takes to Heal 08:40 \u2013 Your Brain on Heartbreak (Addiction Comparison) 09:09 \u2013 Why No Contact Works 10:12 \u2013 The Reality of Avoiding Your Ex 11:11 \u2013 Why Doing Nothing Slows Healing 12:07 \u2013 How to Stop Ruminating 13:19 \u2013 Building New Neural Pathways 14:38 \u2013 Trying to \u201cWin\u201d the Breakup 15:57 \u2013 What to Do in the First 30 Days 17:19 \u2013 How Friends Should Support You 18:16 \u2013 Different Types of Breakups 19:53 \u2013 Should You Ever Get Back Together? 22:32 \u2013 Why Hooking Up with Your Ex Sets You Back 23:21 \u2013 The Danger of Staying Friends Too Soon 24:29 \u2013 Healing vs Avoidance 25:47 \u2013 Pedestal vs Villain Mindsets 27:32 \u2013 Living in Reality vs Fantasy 29:19 \u2013 The Dating Funnel Explained 31:03 \u2013 From Dating to Commitment 32:29 \u2013 Biggest Dating Mistakes Today 33:31 \u2013 Preferences vs Dealbreakers 34:28 \u2013 Dating Skills vs Relationship Skills 36:34 \u2013 How to Create Attraction on Dates 39:14 \u2013 Desperation & Dating Energy 41:25 \u2013 What Men Get Wrong on Dates 42:04 \u2013 Dating After Long-Term Relationships 44:23 \u2013 What Predicts Relationship Success 45:16 \u2013 Why Your \u201cType\u201d Is Holding You Back 46:33 \u2013 The Dating Experiment That Works 49:31 \u2013 Dating Apps vs Real-Life Connections 51:27 \u2013 Optimizing Your Dating Profile 53:02 \u2013 Best Cities for Dating 54:54 \u2013 Aligning Strategy with Relationship Goals 56:56 \u2013 Are You Delusional in Dating? 58:30 \u2013 Money, Roles & Modern Relationships 01:00:28 \u2013 Navigating Family & Cultural Differences 01:02:30 \u2013 Final Lesson: Keep Your Heart Open 01:03:27 \u2013 What Relationships Are Really For 01:04:09 \u2013 How to Move Ever Forward in Love ----- Episode resources: FREE 30-day trial of Audible at https:\/\/www.AudibleTrial.com\/everforward  20% off True Creatine and True Biome with code EVERFORWARD at https:\/\/www.AncientAndBrave.com 15% off organic lattes and coffee with code CHASE at https:\/\/www.StrongCoffeeCompany.com\/chase  15% off C15:0 essential fatty acid with code EVERFORWARD at https:\/\/www.Fatty15.com\/everforward  Watch and subscribe on YouTube Get Amy's new book Unsingle ","author_name":"Ever Forward Radio with Chase Chewning","author_url":"https:\/\/www.everforwardradio.com","html":"