{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"424 The 6 Saboteurs Destroying Your Self-Control (And How to Beat Them) with Eric Zimmer","description":"What if the secret to lasting change isn\u2019t a single powerful moment, but thousands of tiny, unremarkable ones? That\u2019s the central idea behind Eric Zimmer\u2019s powerful new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life. Eric is the host of The One You Feed podcast and a long-time figure in the recovery community with 26 years of sobriety. In Episode 424, he and I explored why real transformation happens slowly \u2014 and why that\u2019s actually good news. The Hammer and the Chisel Eric opens his book with the story of Dasrath Manjhi, an Indian man who lost his wife because the road to the hospital was impossibly long. After her death, he took a hammer and chisel to the mountain separating his village from the town and spent decades chipping away at it \u2014 enduring ridicule and seemingly no progress \u2014 until he had carved a path that cut travel time by 90%. Eric calls this the ultimate story of how a little becomes a lot: not dynamite, just consistent effort. Why Progress Is Invisible Before It\u2019s Obvious One of the most important points Eric makes is that progress happens long before we can see it. Our brains, wired for negativity bias, are constantly scanning for what\u2019s not working \u2014 which makes it easy to miss all the marbles accumulating in the jar. He shared a story of a client who began putting a marble in a jar each sober day (without removing any for slips), and how seeing that jar fill up over months changed her entire relationship with her recovery. The Recipe for Change Eric\u2019s formula is simple but not easy: low-resistance actions, done consistently, over time, in the same direction. Low-resistance doesn\u2019t mean tiny \u2014 it means something you will actually do. Consistent means you don\u2019t stop when it gets hard or invisible. And same direction means you aren\u2019t scattered across 30 goals. The 6 Saboteurs of Self-Control Eric identifies six things that derail us at our \u201cchoice points\u201d: The Autopilot Pitfall \u2014 acting without awareness (hello, phone scrolling) Fatigue Fallout \u2014 being too tired to make good choices The Shortsighted Stumble \u2014 valuing the present over the future (play the tape all the way through) Emotional Escapism \u2014 wanting to feel different than you do The Self-Doubt Stalemate \u2014 believing you can\u2019t do it The Insignificance Trap \u2014 thinking one day doesn\u2019t matter Action Items from This Episode Do the values exercise on page 35: identify three times you were happiest, most proud, and most fulfilled \u2014 then look for the pattern. Pick a \u201cguide\u201d \u2014 someone you admire \u2014 and note what qualities you admire. Those are your values. Identify your current top saboteur and name one structural change to make it easier to choose well. Start a marble jar. Seriously. Books & Resources Mentioned How a Little Becomes a Lot by Eric Zimmer \u2013 Buy Here The One You Feed podcast \u2014 oneyoufeed.net Guest Website: https:\/\/oneyoufeed.net Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days \u2013 With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https:\/\/www.soberlifeschool.com Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https:\/\/www.makesobrietystick.com Subscribe So You Don\u2019t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode onApple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube.         Apple: https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast\/id1212504521 Spotify: https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff\/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast ","author_name":"Sobriety: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/odaatchat.com","html":"