{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"The Truth About What Women Say vs. What They Actually Choose (THE GOOD MAN TRAP)","description":"Elevated Man Podcast with Apollonia Ponti  The Truth About What Women Say vs. What They Actually Choose (THE GOOD MAN TRAP) In this podcast episode, we dive into a conversation that challenges a common belief: if you\u2019re a good man, things should naturally work out. But what happens when the traits that define a \u201cgood man\u201d aren\u2019t always what create attraction? Apollonia Ponti explores the disconnect between what women say they want and what they emotionally choose. She breaks down how trauma bonding, validation-seeking, and emotional familiarity can shape relationship decisions, even when a stable and grounded partner is present. Many men find themselves confused when their consistency and kindness don\u2019t lead to deeper connection, and this episode examines why that happens. This discussion also covers the validation addiction that can be mistaken for love, what often occurs when a genuinely good man enters the picture, and why rejection doesn\u2019t always mean you weren\u2019t enough. Apollonia explains how to interpret statements like \u201cI just want peace,\u201d and what a grounded response looks like without over-pursuing or losing self-respect. The conversation offers a clearer perspective on the \u201cgood man trap,\u201d helping men understand attraction dynamics, avoid emotional overinvestment, and focus on building healthier, more balanced relationships! Key points in this episode! 0:32 \u2014 Why Women Think They Want a Good Man 1:18 \u2014 What Makes a Man \u201cGood\u201d? 2:17 \u2014 Trauma Bonding in Relationships 3:46 \u2014 The Validation Addiction 4:32 \u2014 When a Good Man Shows Up 5:30 \u2014 It\u2019s Not Always That You Weren\u2019t Enough 6:07 \u2014 When a Woman Says She Wants Peace.  Applying for a coaching or consultation call with Apollonia Ponti apply-->  here!  "I love Apollonia; her tips have helped me with my dating!" <---- If this sounds like you, please consider following me and rating\/reviewing my show! This helps me support people like you and gets my advice out there so we can collectively help change many men's's lives! All you have to do is press the follow button -->, scroll to the bottom to Rating & Reviews, and click on Write a Review.   Want more dating advice? Follow Apollonia On:  Instagram; https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/apollonia_ponti\/?hl=en Facebook; https:\/\/m.facebook.com\/apollonialovecoach Website; https:\/\/www.apolloniaponti.com\/ Listen and Subscribe to the Write Your Legend Podcast with Apollonia Ponti on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and the CLNS Media Network mobile app. dating with intention, high value man, masculine energy, men\u2019s dating advice, confidence in dating, emotional control, Apollonia Ponti, The Elevated Man Podcast, dating tips for men, relationship coaching ","author_name":"The Elevated Man","author_url":"https:\/\/www.apolloniaponti.com\/","html":"