{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"043. Knowing Feeling Gap: Help For CPTSD Healing","description":" You can understand something completely and still feel nothing has changed. That's not a willpower problem. That's the knowing-feeling gap \u2014 and it's one of the most common and frustrating experiences in CPTSD healing. In this episode, I break down why intellectual insight alone rarely produces lasting behavioral change for complex trauma survivors. Drawing on real examples from parenting, partnership, and professional life, we explore how trauma-based information processing operates on a separate internal system from conscious awareness \u2014 one that consistently overrides what you cognitively know to be true. You'll learn why the mental health field has historically over-indexed on insight at the expense of embodied intervention, what it actually means to "close the gap" between knowing and feeling, and why that gap is the precise therapeutic target \u2014 not just an obstacle to push through. If you've ever said "I know I deserve better, but I can't feel it" or "I understand the pattern, but I keep repeating it," this episode was made for you. Step Closer If this episode resonated, join my email list. I send about two emails a week. https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/email When You're Ready CPTSD Resolution 101 Weekend Workshop Three days, seven people, live on Zoom. You'll leave with a clear, personalized map for your CPTSD Resolution. Offered twice a year in February and September.  https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/weekendworkshop Happily Ever After \u2014 The All-Inclusive CPTSD Resolution Experience Six months of close-proximity training with me. Application required.  https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/services About Dr. Tanner Wallace Tanner Wallace, PhD and Level 3 IFS Practitioner, is the founder of CPTSD Medicine and the author of the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol, a proprietary applied mental health training curriculum that teaches HouseHolder CycleBreakers to resolve complex relational trauma at the root. A former tenured professor of health and human development, she left academia to build the services she could not find as a childhood trauma survivor diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder: a structured six-month container that trains humans to become their own best intervention scientists. Inside her signature container, Happily Ever After, she works with a small number of students to resolve, not manage, their CPTSD. About the Podcast Heal First, Then Pick Your Life Partner is for high-functioning adults with complex trauma who are tired of repeating painful relationship patterns. If you perform well professionally but struggle intensely in your closest relationships, this podcast helps you see why. Each episode takes an ordinary moment of adult life \u2014 attending a family wedding, going through old photographs, ending a relationship, writing a holiday card, having a hard conversation with someone you love \u2014 and shows you what's actually happening underneath it through the lens of complex trauma. You'll hear my take on the lived experience of CPTSD, drawn from five years of building a proprietary trauma resolution curriculum and from my own work as a survivor who no longer qualifies for the diagnoses I once did. This is diagnostic, declarative, and unlike anything else in the CPTSD space. Hosted by Dr. Tanner Wallace, PhD, founder of CPTSD Medicine.   Can\u2019t stop fighting in your relationship? \u2192 Follow the Fight Smarter Field Guide \u2014 a self-guided learning experience to understand your conflict patterns and practice responses that lead to repair, not regret. https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/the-fight-smarter-field-guide In a relationship, but wondering if you should leave? \u2192 Begin the Red Flag Learning Path to recognize trauma-driven patterns and rebuild your inner compass toward love that doesn\u2019t hurt. https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/red-flag-checklist   ","author_name":"Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD","author_url":"https:\/\/cptsdmedicine.com\/","html":"