{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Executive Functioning, ADHD & Autism: 5 Ways to Teach Accountability Without Shame","description":"When adults tell autistic or ADHD children to be more accountable \u2014 to take more responsibility, to stop making excuses, admit when they're wrong \u2014 I understand exactly where that's coming from. The fear underneath it is real. The exhaustion is real. But here's what I also know: when we demand accountability and responsibility through shame, we're not teaching our neurodivergent kids anything. We're just making them feel bad about who they are. In this episode, I'm getting honest about something most of us don't talk about \u2014 the massive gap between what parents mean when they say "accountability" and what their autistic or ADHD child actually hears. And I'm going to show you what real accountability looks like for neurodivergent kids. It doesn't involve a giant, heavy bag of shame and blame. It involves understanding, curiosity, and problem solving \u2014 together. I've been the parent standing in front of my child saying, "You need to take responsibility." I thought I was teaching him something essential. What I was actually doing was handing him a bag of garbage and calling it a life lesson. This episode is for every parent and teacher who has done the same. And for every therapist working with autistic and adhd children and their families.  In this episode, you'll learn: Why demanding accountability from autistic and ADHD kids often backfires \u2014 and what's actually happening when a child "refuses to take responsibility." The garbage bag metaphor: what happens when shame and blame get passed back and forth between parent and child \u2014 and how to put it down Real examples and what actually helped 5 ways to teach real accountability without shame, including how to separate the action from the person, how to use curiosity instead of blame, and how to teach missing skills without saying "you should know this by now." Why "I forgot" and "she was bothering me" are not excuses \u2014 they're a child trying to communicate What happens to neurodivergent kids who grow up in a shame-based accountability culture \u2014 and why it matters How to repair it when you've already shamed your child in the name of responsibility (because you will, and have I) What therapists need to ask when a parent says their child needs to be more accountable This episode is for you if: You're a parent of an autistic child and\/or ADHD child who struggles with responsibility, follow-through, or "making excuses." You're a therapist, school counselor, or psychologist supporting neurodivergent children and their families You grew up being told you made excuses \u2014 and it still weighs on you. Sincerely, Holly Blanc Moses, The Mom\/Neurodivergent Therapist P.S. 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After you get your guide, you can also access these free resources below:) \u2b07\ufe0f \ud83c\udf1f Get your FREE "Get To Know My Child Snapshot" Parents click here Therapists click here Educators click here \u2b50\ufe0f Hey Therapists! Come on over for NEURODIVERSITY-AFFIRMING CONTINUING EDUCATION  Enhance your therapeutic approach with our affirming and engaging trainings while earning CE credits to fulfill your professional development requirements, as our courses are approved by the NBCC. Therapists click here \u2b50\ufe0f Welcome to our PARENT MASTERCLASSES WITH Q&A  Each live class is packed with supportive strategies on the topics parents want most. Can't make it live? No worries, because you'll get the replay. Sign up to be the first to know when the next masterclass is scheduled. Parents, click here for your masterclasses  \u2764\ufe0f You're invited to my FACEBOOK GROUPS. Can't wait to see you there:)  Parents, come on over and join the Autism ADHD Facebook Group for Parents Therapists & educators, join the Facebook Group for professionals  Subscribe, Support & Share \ud83d\udcf1 Follow: @theautismadhdpodcast on Instagram and Facebook \ud83d\udcfa Come on over to YouTube and check out Autism ADHD TV with Holly Please leave a review! Your 5-star reviews help other families and professionals find The Autism ADHD Podcast. Thank you:) About Holly Blanc Moses Holly Blanc Moses is a neurodivergent psychologist, speaker, consultant, continuing education provider, and host of The Autism ADHD Podcast, Autism ADHD TV, and parent masterclasses. ","author_name":"THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST","author_url":"http:\/\/www.hollyblancmoses.com\/","html":"