{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"289: The Marriage Killer No One Talks About: Selfishness","description":"Marriage problems often begin when \u201cwe\u201d turns into \u201cme.\u201d In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Rosner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove talk about how selfishness quietly damages marriages and why many relationships become transactional over time. They discuss how the enemy uses blame, resentment, and score-keeping to divide couples\u2014and how shifting from \u201cWhat\u2019s in it for me?\u201d to \u201cWhat\u2019s in me for it?\u201d can transform a relationship. You\u2019ll also hear a simple framework for healthy connection in marriage: 5 \u2013 How can I help you? 4 \u2013 I\u2019m proud of you 3 \u2013 I love you 2 \u2013 Thank you 1 \u2013 We When couples choose service over self, marriages grow stronger. &amp;nbsp; Take the free marriage assessment at: greaterimpact.org ","author_name":"What to Say &amp; How to Say It","author_url":"https:\/\/greaterimpact.org","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/40413240\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/content\/199550260"}