{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"A Real Good Sex Guy w \/ Justin Herman","description":"Justin Herman is a television director and producer, internationally touring stand-up comedian, and co-creator of Kinky Comedy originally from Albany, New York where his formal sex education consisted of one awkward school lesson separating boys and girls, a confusing anatomical chart, and a diner conversation with his dad about \u201cthe birds and the bees\u201d that definitely did NOT cover kink. In this episode we talk about the lifestyle community, kink and non-monogamy, how Kinky Comedy accidentally became a hub for sexually liberated audiences, the anthropology of play parties, why lifestyle spaces tend to create deeper friendships, and what happens when kinky jokes collide with vanilla comedy crowds. We also get into porn magazines as early sex education, polyamory as emotional calculus, consent culture in BDSM communities, and the surprisingly wholesome reality of seeing your friends thrive in sexually open environments. Then, Justin and I go deep reading Reddit stories over on Patreon! https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/cw\/birdsandbeesdontfck  Get my Yes \/ No \/ Maybe List Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 4p PT \/ 7p ET:&amp;nbsp;https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@birdsandbeesdontfck ___________________________________________ Where to find Justin: Instagram: @justin_herman Kinky Comedy: https:\/\/kinkycomedy.com Website: https:\/\/justinhermancomedy.com Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck  TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck  Patreon: https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/cw\/birdsandbeesdontfck Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon:  STORY 1: Am I the asshole for wanting my girl to do more cleaning around the apartment? STORY 2: Am I the asshole for banning my sister\u2019s boyfriend from my house and closing the door in his face?  Like my cuffs? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https:\/\/lovecrave.com\/arielle _____________________________________________ Episode Cheat Sheet 02:05 What Kinky Comedy is and how it started 06:40 What \u201cthe lifestyle\u201d actually means (kink, BDSM and non-monogamy) 09:10 Why women watching male-male porn often feel safer and more connected to the pleasure 11:15 Building community through sex-positive comedy shows 15:50 Why kinky jokes bomb in vanilla comedy rooms 18:20 XBIZ, adult industry spaces and sexual openness 20:40 Seeing your friends have sex and what it teaches about personality 23:00 The anthropology of play parties and lifestyle spaces 25:15 Why polyamory requires extreme emotional intelligence 27:30 Body positivity, vulvas and seeing real bodies in lifestyle spaces 29:35 Why naked confidence makes everyone hotter 31:50 Consent culture and why lifestyle spaces prioritize women\u2019s comfort 34:05 Negotiation vs coercion in kink and BDSM dynamics 36:00 The Orgy Dome at Burning Man and radical consent practices 38:10 Why people attend play parties without having sex 40:13 Justin\u2019s real sex education: awkward school lessons and the diner birds-and-bees talk 42:20 Porn magazines as early sex education for teenage boys 46:30 Why boys looking at porn together is its own weird cultural ritual 49:40 Punching down in comedy and evolving standards in humor 54:15 Why comedy should evolve as society evolves 56:30 The origin of the \u201creal good sex guy\u201d title 58:50 Growing Kinky Comedy into a real community event ","author_name":"Birds And Bees Don't Fck","author_url":"https:\/\/instagram.com\/birdsandbeesdontfck","html":"<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/40354385\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/forward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/88AA3C\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"600\" scrolling=\"no\"  allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen><\/iframe>","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/assets.libsyn.com\/secure\/item\/40354385"}