{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Ep. 804: Life After Betrayal ","description":"Register for the next free 14 Day Manifestation Challenge starting April 1st     http:\/\/jjflizanes.com\/14day  In this episode, JJ sits down with returning guest Lori Shelley, a coach who helps women navigate the emotional and practical aftermath of betrayal. Lori shares her background\u2014from 12 years in financial planning (including training leadership), to 13 years at home raising her kids, to 13 years in HR\u2014and how her own life experience led her to coaching women in midlife who are rebuilding after major relationship disruption. Lori opens up about discovering her husband\u2019s long-term deception through what\u2019s often called \u201cdrip disclosure\u201d\u2014learning the truth in pieces over time\u2014and how that process created intense nervous-system dysregulation: depression, short temper, feeling worse as she approached home, and eventually rage that didn\u2019t match the partial information she had. She explains how a formal therapeutic disclosure helped bring alignment between what she felt and what was actually happening\u2014creating clarity, validation, and a turning point for healing. Together, JJ and Lori discuss why the right support matters. Lori describes the difference between approaches that frame partners as \u201cco-addicts\u201d versus betrayal trauma frameworks that recognize the impact of deception on safety, intuition, and identity. She shares how 12-step style groups (including COSA) can provide a safe starting place\u2014especially when the group\u2019s structure and energy support growth instead of staying stuck in the story. Lori also explains how she works with women today through groups and individual coaching, including: A group for women navigating separation\/divorce after betrayal, and A deeper healing experience called The Spiral Path, a 6-month program exploring: what you want to leave behind, what you want to acknowledge, and what you want to walk away with. JJ highlights Lori\u2019s unique zone of genius: blending emotional healing + financial and career support for women facing divorce\u2014helping clients move from \u201cI\u2019m not okay\u201d to regulated, grounded, and clear about what they will and won\u2019t accept moving forward. Lori shares one of her favorite group check-ins: noticing glimmers (small signs of hope) and naming what you\u2019re beating yourself up about\u2014so you can begin to come back to yourself. Connect with Lori: Website: LoriShelleyCoaching.com (Book a free 30-minute consultation) Facebook: Lori Shelley Coaching ","author_name":"Fit 2 Love Podcast with JJ Flizanes","author_url":"http:\/\/jjflizanes.com","html":"