{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"EP 527: Why Forgiveness Isn't Always the Anwser with Sylvie","description":"What if forgiveness isn\u2019t the next step? In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Sylvie, who has been trying for years to reach forgiveness after a profound betrayal involving her ex-husband and a longtime friend. Despite therapy, spiritual work, and understanding that \u201cforgiveness is for you,\u201d she finds herself stuck. Christine helps Sylvie uncover something powerful: sometimes forgiveness isn\u2019t blocked because we\u2019re not spiritual enough \u2014 it\u2019s blocked because we\u2019ve skipped a step. When betrayal runs deep, especially when it touches childhood wounds of not being seen or valued, forgiveness may not be the first doorway. Confrontation, anger release, and self-advocacy might be. If you\u2019ve ever tried to forgive but couldn\u2019t get there \u2014 or felt ashamed that you\u2019re still angry \u2014 this episode will help you understand why and what may actually need to happen first.  transcript   Consider \/ Ask Yourself: Is there someone you feel you \u201cshould\u201d forgive but can\u2019t? Are you trying to spiritually bypass anger or confrontation? Do you avoid conflict, even when something deeply hurt you? Are you holding onto resentment because speaking up feels harder? Is there a clearing conversation you\u2019ve been postponing?   Key Insights and A-HAs: Forgiveness is not condoning someone\u2019s behavior. Forgiveness is about releasing the beliefs and judgments keeping you stuck \u2014 not excusing the action. Sometimes the growth edge isn\u2019t forgiveness \u2014 it\u2019s confrontation. Anger is not unspiritual; it\u2019s information and energy that must be processed. Avoiding hard conversations can keep betrayal alive in the body. Peace often comes from self-advocacy, not silence.   How to Deepen the Work: Ask yourself if there is a conversation that needs to happen before you can move forward. Explore somatic or anger-release work to move stored emotion out of your body. Notice where you are confusing forgiveness with people-pleasing. Practice being a stand for yourself in small ways before having larger confrontations. Shift the goal from \u201cforgiveness\u201d to \u201cpeace and acceptance.\u201d   Free Masterclass: Untangled Christine is hosting a free masterclass called Untangled, designed to help you break out of childhood patterns and step into who you truly are \u2014 especially in this powerful Fire Horse energy cycle. This is an opportunity to create new momentum, untangle old emotional patterns, and strategically step into transformation. Register at:christinehassler.com\/untangled   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler \u2014 Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com \u2014 For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!   ","author_name":"Life Coaching with Christine Hassler","author_url":"http:\/\/christinehassler.com\/podcast\/","html":"