{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Why You Don\u2019t Feel Like \u201cEnough\u201d as a Daughter with Dr. Allison Alford","description":"If you\u2019ve ever felt like no matter how much you do for your family, it\u2019s still not enough, this episode is for you. Dr. Allison Alford, who holds a PhD in Communication Studies with a concentration in Interpersonal Communication from The University of Texas at Austin, is here to name the invisible labor so many daughters carry, and help us explore how to untangle our worth from sacrifice and reclaim what healthy daughtering can look like. In this episode, you\u2019ll learn: The four types of daughtering work: doing, feeling, thinking, and being Why emotional labor with family can quietly drain your energy and reserves How to shift from obligation to choice in your role as a daughter A step-by-step approach to setting boundaries without immediately creating conflict How to define your own \u201crubric\u201d for what being a good daughter means About the guest: Allison Alford is a clinical associate professor in the Department of Information Systems and Business Analytics. She holds a PhD in Communication Studies with a concentration in Interpersonal Communication from The University of Texas at Austin. Alford has 17 years\u2019 experience teaching university courses and her specialties are value propositions, conflict resolution techniques, teamwork, meeting facilitation and people-skills for leaders. Alford is active in the Association for Business Communication and National Communication Association. Connect with Dr. Allison Alford: Book: Good Daughtering: The Work You\u2019ve Always Done, the Credit You\u2019ve Never Gotten, and How to Finally Feel Like Enough: https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Good-Daughtering-Always-Credit-Finally\/dp\/0063436426 Website: https:\/\/daughtering101.com\/ Instagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/daughtering101\/ TikTok: https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@daughtering101 Facebook: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/people\/Daughtering101\/61564467700155\/ LinkedIn: https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/allisonalford\/   00:00 Feeling Like You\u2019re Never Doing Enough for Your Family 00:54 Meet Dr. Allison Alford + What \u201cDaughtering\u201d Means 03:36 How Daughtering Changes in Adulthood (and Why It Stays Invisible) 07:40 Family Scripts, Unspoken Rules, and Why Patterns Feel Hard to Break 10:15 Why She Researched Daughtering: The Origin Story + 10 Years of Interviews 13:12 What Women Say Daughtering Is: Hosting, Protecting Feelings, and Not Feeling Seen 16:56 The 4 Types of Daughtering Work: Doing, Feeling, Thinking, Being 23:57 From Obligation to Choice: Making the Invisible Visible and Recalibrating 25:32 Start With \u2018Narrating\u2019 Before You Set Boundaries 28:31 From Awareness to Action: Asking for What You Want 30:01 Who This Advice Is For (and When to Get Extra Help) 31:25 The \u2018Family CEO\u2019 Role: Invisible Labor, Real Value 34:30 Perfectionism & \u2018Never Enough\u2019: Create Your Daughtering Rubric 37:03 Plant the Flag: Beta-Test New Limits Without Guilt 39:25 New Traditions That Fit Your Life (Not Just the Default) 42:46 About the Book + Why This Work Matters for Future Generations 46:16 Where to Find More + Final Takeaways \u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014 Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. \u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014 \ud83d\udc8c Subscribe to the Calmly Coping Newsletter: https:\/\/calmlycoping.com\/newsletter \ud83d\udcac Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https:\/\/calmlycoping.com\/message \u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014 Want more? \ud83d\udc69\ud83c\udffd\u200d\ud83d\udcbb Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https:\/\/becalmwithtati.com\/work-with-me \ud83d\udc65 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. 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